Odd title huh? Well this week in my sociology class, we learned that race is a social creation in the sense that genetically human beings aren't different races, instead we are just different looking. Dont take this idea too seriously, it's just the thought that prejiduce comes from classifying a nationality as different from you and than saying that they are different race.
Anyways, I was thinking and since I have been raised in a church and sex has been thought of as wrong and immoral unless you are married. The idea the abstinence is the best God pleasing way to conduct your intimate relationship. I've been struggling with that idea lately. When I was sixteen and in my first relationship, I told my (now ex) boyfreind I was a supporter of abstinence and I think it would be morally right to wait until we were married if we got married. I am not going to disclose my personal past on the internet, but lets just say that my body had other ideas lol. Lust easily takes over and dragged our good intentions to the ground. I was sixteen, so it was looked down upon my mother of course who is a devout christian. In the church and any christian bible thumping beleiver you go to will tell you that abstinence is the right way to go.
Here is where my question comes in. Is that a socially created rule or is it Christians capitolizing on common sense? Is sex outside of marriage less cared about and less looked down upon as you get older?
I know plenty of sets of parents who raise their children to be abstinent. So some adults think its the way to go to. I think when you get older, you have more freedom financially and over your own body so your going to take risks such as sex and no one will say boo about except your grandma and your church family if you have one.
Over the past century I think abstinence has declined among people in general, with the invention of birth control though, you can have sex all you want and not get pregnant. Back in the old days, you went too far and either had a shot gun wedding or got married at 18 so you can have sex and not be looked down upon by everyone.
It's just an issue I struggle with with my current boyfreind, because were devout christians, but were both teenagers who can easily find a private place lol.
What do you guys think about abstinence and the socially created stigma against a natural act of mating?
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