It is morally wrong and should be outlawed.
1% (1 vote)
It is not morally wrong, but people should date their own race.
2% (3 votes)
Let people date/marry whatever race they want.
88% (115 votes)
It should be required to date/marry someone of a different race.
3% (4 votes)
Other (please explain).
5% (7 votes)
Total votes: 130
In my opinion to say that you have to date a certain race is racism. The color or heritage of a person shouldn't decide if you go with them or not. It's their heart, the person they really are.
i feel it is sick if this question can still be asked, and gladly no one chose the first two
it seems sick that we can still ask this question and that there are actually people out there who would chose the first two; but they do exist, although maybe not on this site. Anyway, I know my Grandma is one of those people...she was shocked to hear that my best friend my first year of college was a black guy. She lectured me about how I better not have any romantic feelings for him, because that was wrong and people of different races had no right to date and many other horrible things. I had no idea how racist my grandma was until that moment..actually, I think that was the first I'd heard that she was racist at all.
But yeah, unfortunately, these folks still exist. And i can bet they don't just exist in my grandma's generation, unfortunately.
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I had the same issue while I was in high school. A guy that I dated in Highschool was black and once she found out she went crazy. She demanded that we break up and that I find a nice little puerto rican boy. I didn't listen though. Now, I am getting married to a Hatian gentlemen. Love has no color in my eyes. Race really never mattered at all. My grandmother has changed though, she likes him. I guess because she realizes that it doesn't matter what race, what matters is that we care for each other, we love each other and we complete each other.
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You spoke too soon.....why in the world would you outlaw this? How in the hell could it be enforced???
Not that difficult to enforce the marriage aspect... people have to show up at the courthouse to get the license, so someone sees that they're two different races, they can't marry.
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It would be enforced the same way the same-sex marriage bans are currently enforced.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
When people advocate for a same-sex marriage ban. A statutory or constitutional ban means a legal directive to use the police power of the state to accomplish the prohibition. Police Power = GUNS. In other words, supporting these bans ultimately means that you are willing to SHOOT PEOPLE in order to prevent them from getting married. Think about it. The government is unique in that it is allowed to use physical force to accomplish its ends. The threat of physical force is inherent to any law that the government is asked to enforce. So, let's be frank...are you willing to KILL us to stop our marriages? If not, then legal same-sex marriage in this country is inevitable.
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How would an albino prove their true race though? Hypothetically, if this WERE a law?
...since biologically speaking, there really isn't such a thing as "race" to begin with. The perception of race is a fallacy. Two people can have radically different skin colors, and actually be more closely related on a genetic level than two people whose skin is of exactly the same hue.
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very true
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And how would a white child born to black parents (not an albino child... just a child with fair skin) prove that he/she is black? How would someone with a deep tan prove they're white instead of mexican? But, I can just imagine the judges saying that they can't marry because...
Since it's not a law, it doesn't particularly matter.
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I dont particularly find this topic to be highly relevant to any current situation (except for gay marriage and the fact that gay or straight, black or white anyone should be able to marry) but I believe that it would be quite a rediculus and costly thing at that to verify a persons race, and would still remain impossible. You see, race is a facade in the modern world. Thousands of years ago there were very clear lines of race, but now so many people have mixed and moved around that no race is actually real except for those which are extremes, and have been in an unchanged environment their whole existance without even interaction with the outside world. (In which case NONE of this applies to them since they dont know of such rediculusness.) The only way to determine anything would only lead to knowing WHERE someones ancestors came from and not anything close enough to be enforceable by law as a race, since our country AT LEAST does not go by such guidelines ANYMORE (and i am strictly speaking according to the law.. NOT the perception of people) which would go by just how someone looks. They could be a certain race, but then again they could be 5 races. There is no way to tell, and any attempt to make this a law would fail miserably. There just simply isnt enough racists in government anymore (Less Racists = Good). I have digressed terribly into alot of things, but overall this is not plausible in todays society and we would not be able to PROVE race in any way. Conditions such as a person being ALBINO would not come in to play because that is not a race it is a complexity condition. Yes there are albinos which come from black parents. And yes, there have been BLACK babies that have come from white parents
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I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating any person of race race, but I can understand wanting to date certain people. Sometimes it feels more comfortable to be with a person of your own race because he or she can relate to you on a racial level. I know that many minorities prefer to date other minorities (of any race) because they want someone who is not part of the dominant group and has had the same general experiences.
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Hi,
I agree with your comment about being comfortable with your own race. It hard to find someone that you can relate to or someone that can understand or have experienced what you have experienced from the opposite race. I personally prefer being in a relationship with people that understands what obstacles are instead of a person only knowing the easy way out. Altogether it creates deep conversation at the same time you learn from the other person.
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I believe that the race of the person should not play a part in dating or marriage, but it's understanding cultural differences that makes a difference. As long as they are both comfortable with one another, there shouldn't be a problem. I think it's pretty cute to see interracial dating/marriage. The only thing that bothers me is the sterotypical comments that people make about why an individual is dating outside their race.
Why couldn't people simply believe that they were best friends from college or they bumped heads at the coffee shop, instead of the usual negative comments about certain men and women. I like to think outside the box!
Interracial dating/marraige shouldn't bother anyone, although it does make you wonder. Why go elsewhere, or why date outside of your race? Now that is what really interests me! What is the main attraction?
Well why not?
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I have nothing against interracial dating or marriage. I'm just curious and more interested in what the main attraction is. Like the way they carry themselves or the way men or women treat the opposite sex or even the school they attended.
Laurie
Or maybe it is their personality, the kind of person they are, or what they stand for. Or anything else that isn't only skin deep.
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Exactly, that's what I like to hear!
Laurie Wilson
Some people just like to be with other who are different than they are. There is always a mystery behind somebody who thinks and looks differently than you. For example, my parents. My mother is white and she grew up in America in the typical suburban family. My father on the other hand, is black, and grew up in Cameroon, which obviously is the complete opposite. Obviously something clicked.
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I know that white girls tend to get hung up on their weight and are less secure about themselves that black girls. (This is a general statement, based on my own obsevations.) So maybe the confidence is appealing to guys.
Also, teenagers like to date. If they are not prejudice, than they will probably date whoever they are interested in, romantically.
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Hmm, good point! Confidence is appealing to guys. You made a comment about teenagers and m y little sister came to mind. She resides and Florida, broke up with her boyfriend and she is looking to meet new friends and or boyfriend. Being that there are mostly Caucasians in her school, I suggest that she becomes more openminded towards her environment and not limit herself. You never know who you may run into.
It is like KristanMD said personality, but I also believe love has no color or gender. People of all races are beautiful. People of all races sometimes aren't beautiful. But it is in the eye of the beholder. I have heard people say "well I only date white men or black men." and they are a different race. They normally will give me some stereotypical reason why. I believe attraction should be because you like who that person is. Not what color their skin is. It doesn't matter. I mainly agree with Kristan though on the personality point of view.
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I think this is a dumb question and shouldn't even be a discussion. There should be no question of legality for dating outside of your own race. Race - ugh - I don't even like using that word. It makes it sound like we are different because we have a different color epidermis. That's like saying we are different because our eyelashes are different lengths. Dumb.
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...since (biologically speaking) there really is no such thing as "race." Human beings are all of the same species. Concerns of interracial dating are based in ignorance and prejudice, and really have no place in an intelligent society.
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I don't like this much either because I am afraid to see people choose the first 2 options... but I still have an opinion.
I believe you should date to love and cherish. Some people date for money and sex but usually not based on the background of a person or the color of their skin. Personally I am much more attracted to mn of color than not. Don't ask why, I just do.
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We should all probably stick to the human race for purposes of sex and reproduction, but 'dating' cats and dogs has a long history, and few critics.
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Wow. I'm shocked by the polls so far. At this point, everyone has either voted that every should marry who they want or "other". Increible.
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If you honestly believe in "sticking to your own kind" then I would argue only Italians should marry Italians. Only people born in California should marry Californians. Where does it stop? No two people are going to have the same experience no matter what traits they have in common. So many other factors are involved in developing an individuals background. Stick to your own kind doesn't make sense because we are all so connected and mixed (and unique) as it is. Color is only skin deep.
Love can find you be it in someone of a different ethnicity, gender, age, etc. Trying to limit who has the right to marry who just makes someone small-minded. What may not be right for you may be perfect for someone else. Do you really want to be the person who ruins everyone else's life just because it didn't personally work for you?
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Your comments and other combined together made me think of this movie that I recently saw, "Something New"!
Have you or anyone else seen this movie?
The major point of the movie was to not set limits for love! A person may prefer to only look for a particular guy or girl within a particular race and never find it. If a person can allow themselves to be a little more open minded than they can find the true love that they are really looking for.
Laurie Wilson
You can't put a skin color on love and you shouldn't expect anyone else to do so either. We all should be taught that people are people regardless of skin color, so why should it be any different with dating and marriage?
it's pretty sad that, in a place dedicated to progress, someone has vote that interracial marriages are wrong and should be outlawed.
Perhaps whoever voted this way could explain themselves (perhaps they meant to click something else, or purposely wanted to cause trouble, some other reason?), rather than hiding behind a veil of anonymity.
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I see no problem with it. And as Percivale said, there really is not such thing as race. Race is just a human construct, now if only racist organizations understood that.
Diversify yer love life. I voted in the mandatory mixed racial dating category, because it seemed like a nifty idea. But then again, so did this: http://www.commondreams.org/headlines05/0910-01.htm
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The poll question is one that asks if interracial dating/marrige is acceptable.
I believe it is unacceptable to classify people de to race.
And I would like to pose a question: what is race?!
Race is a word that I have come to disagree with. It is a word, and a system of classification that has bounded us as humas by certain categories that shouldn't exist. Race originated, not as a basis of skin color, stereotypes or nationality-- but geographic location on the earth-- four sections of the earth; if you are from Egyptian origins, you are Caucasian, because Egypt is geographically located where Caucasians are generalized to live (Europe).
I prompt you all to look at the REAL issue... that we prolong the CLASSIFICATION of racial segregation by continuning the use of the word RACE and we should not even acknowledge such a classification.
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i am soooooo glad that people are not judging others by their skin color their culture, their heritage and stuff, am so happy that i cried when i read this poll because it shows that humanity is progressing and changing the old crazy believes for understanment and actually loving one another. of course in the south, where im living right know, sometimes one can see other people looking at you wierdly because you speak spanish or because one is not white and looks like one is black. This is so real and i am loving everybody in this poll who voted and everybody that has had a awesome comment on this issue. Like some of you guys have said love is suposed to be based on that love, feelings, and what a person is about inside and outside.
i don't think it's a big deal what race you marry. some people might view it differently if they're used to seeing people around them marrying the same race, but we're all people. who cares about color?
I think being required to or banned from dating/marrying someone of a different race is ludicrous. I mean, seriously? The person you marry should be someone who you love. What color of skin they have, or anything about their outside appearance shouldn't matter, but unfortunately to a lot of people it stlil does. These kind of questions are only asked because everyone's opinion about it is 100% one way or the other. I think i'm 100% sure this is a horrible question.
I very much agree with everyone here. Marriage is something that should be based on how two people get along, how much they love, respect, and encourage one another - not on what they look like. People need to stop making judgements and decisions about others solely on their appearance. It's ridiculous.
I've recently been attending a predominantly black church (and I'm about as white as you can get) and the people I've met there could not be any more friendly or inviting. I'm not even religious and I can still enjoy going there.
Love people for who they are, not what they look like!
It used to a crime for any race, especially white and black or white and any minorities to get married.
Even Loving vs. Virginia overturn the ban between race, Alabama didn't outlaw their ban on interracial marriage until 2000.
Here what was said that the Loving vs. Virginia in 1967. The first judge justify banning interracial marriage because of this:
Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, Malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.
The surpreme court overturn it in:
Marriage is one of the "basic civil rights of man," fundamental to our very existence and survival.... To deny this fundamental freedom on so unsupportable a basis as the racial classifications embodied in these statutes, classifications so directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment, is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discrimination. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State.
There is patently no legitimate overriding purpose independent of invidious racial discrimination which justifies this classification. The fact that Virginia prohibits only interracial marriages involving white persons demonstrates that the racial classifications must stand on their own justification, as measures designed to maintain White Supremacy.
wow, this is still an issue? I'll have to say that, as the product of an interracial marriage (korean and white!), this law would have prevented my existence. And I can't even see a logical basis for a law like this. You can only love who you love. It all seems like it would cause unnecessary stress where people should be completely at ease and IN LOVE. It's next to impossible for me to date within my "race" simply because there aren't many people like me that I know. I've actually never dated within my "race" (if you can call it that, ethnicity?), and let me just say it's the same process whether they're asian, white, black, or even aborigine. No differences, so why the arbitrary limitations?
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You can't help who you are attracted to. Plus, I just find it wrong to judge someone by their race and how it may possibly make or break a relationship.