Faced with my senior year and the end of my undergraduate education, I can't help but feel as if I am staring into the fog of an unknown sea of possibilities or maybe even lack there of. Everyone else seems to know what I should be doing.
" You should get some job experience. Get a real job."
"You should go straight to grad school You know an undergraduate degree is about as important as a high school diploma used to be."
"Why don't you do the Peacecorps between your undergad and your grad degree. That would be totally gnarly dude."
"You should just find a rich man to pay for everything."
I guess in my daydreams about my grand college adventure and the advent of my brilliant career glittering with much fame and fortune, I never really thought about what I wanted out of my life. I just know my father's word echo in my memory with every decision I make. "Just make sure you can pay the bills."
Is paying the bills the means to the end? Will I be happy as long as the bills are paid?
As a female I am faced with even more choices that will impact the flow of my life, more so than for men. So goes the question. Children or no children? The choice to have a child has a greater impact on the woman in terms of her mind, body and career. Whether or not we want to give up a significant amount of our life for a child we must, if only for the physical reasons. So as a female do I take the road to professional success or do I do the traditional method and settle down with kids? Do I have to choose? Can both be done?
I don't know about all of that. What I do know is college students face a lot of serious questions. The opportunities are endless in someways, but an overwhelming feeling of powerlessness and susceptibility prevail.
So I guess one basic question I have is does the wind catch you, or should you do your best to catch the best windfall?
I don't think I'd be happy if my life was simply about making money and being financially secure. I'd want my life to have more meaning than that, and some sense of fulfillment as well.
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I would say that you could do both, if you have the energy to, that is. Kids are a LOT of work, but if you can get by on the lack of sleep you can do kids and school.
Personally, I would be terrified brining a child into the world without being financially secure. Children need security - a roof over their heads, food in their bellies, health insurance, etc. It's harder for kids to feel safe if their parents can't manage to keep a home for them.
As for a bachelor's degree meaning as much as a high school diploma, it really depends on what the degree is in. My brother has an engineering degree and he has no problems finding good jobs with that undergraduate degree. I, on the other hand, have a BA and I can't find anything I wouldn't have been able to find it I had simply went right to work right out of high school.
You have plenty of options, so just follow your heart. Just be sure that whatever decision you make you'll be able to handle it physically and emotionally. Don't run yourself ragged trying to raise a family, hold a job, and go to school all at once. The stress can be unbearable sometimes.
You can balance bothfamily and career, without sacrificing sleep. It just takes careful planning. Schedule flexibility helps, but isn't required.
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