What Exacly is a Dysfunctional Family??

The dictionary has one meaning for a dysfunctional fami9ly but i think that it has many meanings, not just one.  Just because no alcohol is involved does not mean your family is not dysfunctional.  You can live in a family with many people and just because alcohol is involved doesnt make it dysfunctional.

In my opinion its the people, but mostly the adults in the family overall not just in one pparticular household.  Some families may not fit into the dictionary discription of what a dysfunctional family means but there family still does not funtion the way it should.  I went online and researched what exacly a dysfunctional family means and here is what i got:

The essence of a dysfunctional family is that the parents were unable to meet the emotional needs of their children.

A dysfunctional family is an unhealthy place where family members adopt destructive behaviors in order to cope with pain, suffering, fear and loneliness. The parents express a shaming attitude towards their children. As a result, children grow up out of touch with their feelings thoughts, and needs. Typically, children  experience verbal, emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse.

There are four types of troubled families that are prime breeding grounds for emotional problems:

1. Alcoholism and Chemical Dependency
2. Emotionally or Psychologically Disturbed Family System
3. Physically and/or Sexually Abusive Family System
4. The Fundamentalist or Rigidly Dogmatic Family System

It also says  You found it difficult to believe that anyone could accept you just the way you are. You found yourself living by three unwritten rules: "Don't Talk, Don't Trust, and Don't Feel."

I find that so interesting because there are many people like that.  You may think that they are just being shy but in reality it is more than that.  And ofcourse there are exceptions like when peopl really are shy and it has nothing to do with dysfunction.

But everything or just about everything you learn as a child comes from the adults that were around you. Its suppose to be maybe your mother or yyour father or if you are lucky both but, if not that probably messes with your head as well.

This website also shows the

Characteristics of the Emotionally Abused

If you come from a dysfunctional family, can you identify with one or more of these characteristics of the emotionally wounded?

1. "You have difficulty trusting anyone, including your own feelings, perceptions, and judgments.
2. You have difficulty with intimate relationships.
3. You have difficulty having fun.
4. You guess at what is normal.
5. You try to control yourself and everyone else.
6. You have weak boundaries - physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.
7. You carry internalized shame, leaving you feeling inadequate and flawed as a human being.
8. You feel isolated and different.
9. You exhibit "black and white" thinking; it's either all or nothing.
10. You have frozen feelings. You can't know what to feel or how to express your feelings.
11. You look like an adult, but you feel childlike and needy.
12. You judge yourself without mercy.
13. You constantly seek approval and affirmation from others.
14. You carry secrets from your family of origin.
15. You wear masks, play games and act out rigid family roles and/or sex roles.
16. You are attracted to needy people with problems to solve.
17. You tend to live totally oriented to the outside world, believing your worth and happiness lie outside of yourself."

http://relationships911.org/cgi-bin/links/jump.cgi?ID=4930  this is were most of the stuff came from,if u dont believe me try it out

but what i want to know is if peopl actually agree with me?  or Am i just saying a bunch o bolony?

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