I either read or heard the other day something about how gay marriage should not be allowed because it will further destroy our social network, or something along those lines. Furthermore, the person said that divorce has ruined our families and that it should never have been allowed.
Well, my parents got divorced when I was 5. And both have been divorced a second time. And you know what? I'm happy. Yes, it has been a bit upsetting that my father hasn't been a large part of my life. But I knew from a relatively early age that my father cheated on my mother. With the woman he later went on to marry and divorce. I feel that because my mother had been allowed to divorce him, that I have lived a better life. If they had been forced to stay together, I probably would have witnessed innumerable fights between them, and it would have been more and more difficult to have the close relationship I have with my mom.
If my dad had not been allowed to divorce my first stepmother, everything would have gone to hell. She is one of the most manipulative people that I know, and will stoop to low levels to get exactly what she wants. She even accused my dad of beating her when they were in the process of getting divorced, and tried to take custody of my sister away from both my mother and my father. I can only imagine what that situation would have turned into had divorce not been allowed in our society.
For those that turn to the Bible to say that divorce is wrong (and yes, this is one of the few passages I know about because it appalled me so much when I read it), think about this for a second. If you are a female, would you want to divorce your husband if he beat you? A good percentage of the time, that answer would be yes. I don't think a woman should be forced to stay in an abusive relationship, and I certainly don't believe in the notion that the person who initiates the divorce is an adulterer. Divorce is not a bad thing. If the marriage simply isn't working out, no matter how hard those in it try to keep it together, then it should be dissolved. That being said, I hope that I don't have to ever get a divorce, because I know the pain it can cause. But if it comes down to it, less pain will be suffered if the parents get a divorce than if they stay together in a broken marriage.
That being said, gay marriage is no worse than divorce. If two people love each other enough to actually get married, then they will raise any children that they adopt (or if the two people are women, carry) with the same love that two parents of the different sexes can. My mother is a single mom, and she has been for the past 7 years or so. She had done a marvelous job at raising me, and I don't see how not having a constant father figure has put me at a disadvantage, except that I know more about the feelings and actions of women than I do men. Gay marriage should not be banned simply because some closed-minded people think that it is detrimental to our society. The fact of the matter is that these people would probably be living together whether they could get married or not. The only difference that legal marriage makes is that it makes it easier for hospital visits, wills, and other contracts to be carried out the way the couple wishes them to, rather than allowing for a contest of these contracts based on the surviving family members' opinions of their son/daughter/brother/sister/niece/nephew/etc's lifestyle.
Disagree with me if you wish, but divorce is not a bad thing for our society and neither is gay marriage.
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