Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget by Marianne J. Legato is just the first of most likely many books that I will be reviewing on here, in preparation for my upcoming term paper. I really enjoyed this book. It has some very useful insights on, among other things, communication, stress, and intercourse. While I will not be going in depth on the last part, due to my attempts at keeping my blog at least rated PG or less, the information about communication and stress could be used by everyone.
Why, do you ask, could the information presented by Ms. Legato be useful to everyone? Well, for one, I know of very few people who have absolutely no interaction with the opposite sex on a daily basis...unless you are one of those people who lives in their mother's basement...oh wait, you are probably having some interaction with your parental units daily..so this applies to you too. This information can be applied to every type of relationship in your life, not just your romantic pursuits.
Oh, and you can't tell me that you aren't in at least some small way stressed.
What sort of information does she provide? Well, here is a short list of things that I learned from her book.
All of the information from this point on is paraphrased from Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget by Marianne J. Legato. If there are any direct quotes, I am unaware of them.
*disclaimer* This is applicable in most situations, however, it is not applicable in all. I am to be held irresponsible for any decisions you make based on the information presented.
On Communication:
When talking with men, cut to the chase. They don't always need every detail of why they should take out the trash, or clean out the garage. Ask them once, and let it go for a while. If you continue to nag them, they agree far less likely to do it. Or, they will do it then resent you for not trusting them to handle it. (This however, is a great example of negative reinforcement.)
When dealing with women, we don't always want you to fix it. Sometimes we need you to just listen...and that's okay. Just be prepared for us to get mad when you start trying to fix it, when we don't want you too.
On Stress:
Men don't always remember stressful events as vividly as women.
Women are far more likely to remember vivid details of a stressful event as a defense mechanism.
On intercourse:
Another person's touch causes your brain to release oxycontin, which over time makes you a happier person. I learned more in this section as well, however, I am not going into detail. If you want to know more you may purchase the book at
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Never-Remember-Women-Forget/dp/1579548970
Overall, while not always agreeing with all of the information presented within it, I found this book to be very useful for both the purpose for which I was reading it, and for the added bonus of its applications within my own life.
Peace, Love, and Psychology
-gamerchic
---- as a side note----
I am truly sorry for the delay in posting. It has simply been a very very busy time. I am also sad to report that my post previously scheduled to be released last Wednesday to be titled "Llamas Have Needs Too" is having to be postponed. I will post it as soon as I am satisfied with the content provided in it.
