So, lately I've been thinking about the "lemons" in life pretty frequently. Many people have different ways to handle these issues, whether it be withdrawing or hiding, facing the problem head on, or just letting it solve itself. I know that I for the most part try to let problems in life sort themselves out. But this doesn't always work, especially in friendships. Last year in college I had a roommate who I was pretty close to at the beginning of the year. We did everything together, whether it be hanging out on the weekends or going to the dining hall together. But then she started to get into drinking. I'm not a fan of underage drinking, so I didn't participate when she went to parties. As a result, our hang out time became very limited. I just let it go though, and didn't talk to her about what she was doing to herself, or what was happening to our friendship. I pushed it under the matt and tried to act normal when we COULD hang out. But then our friend Gavin left her some notes about her being a drunky because he heard that she had been talking smack about him behind his back. She blamed this event on me, since I was in the room when he had written the notes. I confronted her about this, saying that I should not have been blamed for this occurence. We then got into a huge fight where she told me that I had never been a good friend and that I hadn't been inviting her to do things which is why we weren't friends anymore. I eventually left because anytime I would try to say something she would either not let me finish or she would just knock whatever I was saying. The rest of the year was extremely awkward in the room, and I would often leave and go to different rooms to just get away from the tense atmosphere.
So basically, what I've learned from this is that I need to focus on fixing my problems right away when I can sense them coming on, and not let them get so out of hand. I also need to work on my communication skills... since I'm not very good with confrontations.
Anywho, how do you face your problems? Any suggestions?
