Why is when parents are just so quick to jump down your throat when you have been the best you can be. I am bout to be a sophmore in college. I also run cross country and track n field. I am currently on a partial scholarship but have some debt in college loans as well. I dont have a car but, i am currently lookin for a car for me when I go return back to Kentucky State University. I am majoring in Pre- Law and Minor in Forensic Science. I love to enjoy myself but knows exactly when its time to play and the time to be serious. However it just seems as thought that when i'm acheiving in the highest point, my parents brings me down. they say littlie stuff like; I am getting fat and I only wiegh 118 and im 5'3. they also say that im disrespecting myself for taking a boyfriend to college with me, and last but not least i'm not head strong like i use to be. I also, have people whom actuallty looks up to me and are my mentee's.
What should you do when your life is so perfect in your eyes but is not in your own parents eyes?
Have this ever happened to you?
Do you think this is right?
Should i carre what they think about what i'm doing?
For the most part this is where your self-confidences kick in and be like a duck. Questions, did both parents say this or just one? Are you going places they did not go? What does the parent do for a living that said these things? Maybe, they couldn’t think of anything else to say. See http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/52843-racism
Let love be you mentor!
you get to make the decisions now. Do you require their approval? if you think you do, really stop and assess your parents. are they what you want to be like? do you see them making positive choices and bettering the world around them? if not, then ignore them. consider the source of anyone who ever gives you feedback, positive or negative...think about your role models and mentors. who in your life ever made you feel empowered or encouraged? would those people say the same kinds of things? what do you need any negativity for....don't own it...its theirs, not yours.
"O, I'm sorry you took that, -I meant that for the Devil, and you have stepped in and taken the blow. Don't get between me and the Devil, brother, and the you won't get hurt." --Billy Hibbard
My parents are like that. I work A LOT, but I don't help out around the house "enough". I do the best I can, but I'm spread pretty thin. I still fight with my parents about it sometimes, but mostly I ignore the criticism. I love my parents, but sometimes I have to just accept that I am doing my best, and they can shove it.
Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see.
Why do people major in pre-professional programs? It really makes no sense. You can be any major and be pre-law, just as you can be any major and be pre-pharm, pre-med, pre-dent, etc.
Anyway, your parents have been through the ringer, so to speak, so it's not wise to completely dismiss their concerns. However, at the same time, they're not you. Sometimes, they think or say things that simply aren't applicable to you. I can't live in the same house as my mom anymore, because I can't stand the mood swings she has. We clash too much. I still love her, and talk to her whenever I can, but things that are important to her aren't necessarily important to me, and it annoys her sometimes. I just deal with it and move on.
~C
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