i am 18, i am married, and i have been with my husband for three years, we are both ready to start a family, and i know that i can handle having a child, and i know that my husband and i are financially stable enough to care for each other and a baby. the way i see it is that we are two adults making a decision, but my mother-in-law does not feel the same way. she lets us know often that she feels we are making a mistake, and i just wonder why she feels that way. she is pregnant right now, and her and her husband have been together for a shorter time that me and her son, AND they are always breaking up. if my husband and i hardly fight, and have never broken up, and are soo in love, and we are ready, i dont see the problem, i honestly just feel like she is being a hypocrite. i don't know why she would have any problem with this because it is my life and i am an adult and so is her son. if we feel like we can care for a child, and we aren't living under her roof i think she should be happy for us and for the choice we have made. i realize that i am young, but i also know what it means to take care of a baby and a young child, and i know what i want. i really DO NOT see where she is coming from with all of her criticism, and i don't see why she feels like it is such a bad decision.
is getting pregnant at 18 really such a bad thing?
By danielleisrad - Posted on June 23rd, 2009
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It seems like you are ready for this and your mother in law is just going to have to live with it. At least you didn't get pregnant in school. You finished high school, right? But I do have this bit of advice. Even though you think that you are ready, if you went to college for a degree, you may be even better off financially to support a child. I have two kids now and am going back for nursing and it would be so much easier if I had done it before I had the kids. Now I have to find sitters, pay for daycare, not to mention the time away from the kids for class and studying. I strongly recommend school first. However if you feel that school is not right for you and you make enough money already, I say go for it.
Having a child is the most important thing anyone can ever do.
Age is less important than maturity. If it hasn't already come, you will soon realize that your life must change from a childs' perspective that places your own needs first, to that of an adult that places the needs of that child first. Some parents fail to make that transition, and that shows they were not ready to have a baby.
"It is only by risking our persons from one hour to another that we live at all. And often enough our faith beforehand in an uncertified result is the only thing that makes the result come true."
- William James
In my on opinoin its you and your husband choice. You are married and are financially stable to do this. So i say its whatever you want to do. yall have your own place and is ready for another member of the house. do what u thinks best fits u girl... and be happy.
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