I've never quite understood funerals. I mean, I get the gist of it. Mourning for a loved one or someone close to you because they're dead and gone. It's probably because I think that the gist of a funeral is stupid. Why do we mourn a death instead of celebrating a life and the escape from such a life?
I believe it's the Buddhist belief that all matter is interconnected in someway. We're taught that matter is neither created nor destroyed and some scientific studies put our thoughts and other such things as charges that flicker and flash when we think. If those things surpass death, then we "live" on in a sense. Our bodies go back to the universe and we're reused. Now I'm neither a Buddhist nor an atheist so I just throw these ideas around. The theory of interconnectivity is a part of quantum theory as well but this, I believe, is a theory that's very hard to proves. But still, it's plausible in my mind.
Anyways, back to funerals. Now remember, things fade, people, life, memories, love, everything. Maybe not with you but eventually down the line things will be memories and eventually those memories will fade away. In the here and now however, people are memories. They're never "gone." Yes, there life is gone, but who they are carries on in at the very least, our memories. I find it a shame to mourn their passing. Couldn't it be good?
Religious folks are so scared to die, not grow old but to die. Is it then that Heaven and Hell are just like nothingness or reincarnation, things made up by humans to hide the fact that when we die, we have no clue as to what happens next? We have no proof that there is nothing after we die just as we have no proof that there is a heaven or hell or the reincarnation happens. But we have to know, what happens. Shouldn't we be more concerned with why we're here and living a life that is worthy of being alive? Isn't that the point of life? To live. To be ourselves, to live the life we want to live, with the people we care about and helping people. Haven't the most meaningful lives been those who've lived that way?
I don't care or give a damn about what you believe religiously or scientifically. I want you to think in another persons shoes and then go back to your own little world. But we all need perspective sometimes and rarely just our own. And for Christ's sake, stop mourning!
I never understood what's so wrong with being sad about a death. No, it won't bring the loved one back, but if someone dies that I was close to, I'm going to miss them. Its a reminder of how we will all die one day, which is important to remember. Sometimes its sadness over what that person never had a chance to accomplish, or worry that they will be forgotten and their life will have meant nothing.
Funerals are not just about mourning. Its a chance to celebrate their life, remember the good times, learn from the bad, and most importantly offer support to the living who are suffering emotionally, financially, and sometimes are sick themselves.
As for the afterlife, most people, even religious ones are certain of whats going to come after death. Which is another thing death makes us think about. We don't know if we'll ever see that person again, and even if we do, what will it be like? Will they be young, old, or nothingness?
Frankly, you can't stop people from being sad because of a death, and acting like they aren't won't do any good.
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I do believe I said something about celebrating their life, did I not? So I worded it wrong. I should have said we should celebrate the life much more than we mourn the death. Death is a thing that happens to everyone and to me, it's a natural cycle I accept. Yes, when my parents die I'll be extremely sad, not so much that they're dead but that I'll never be able to see their smiling faces and hear their voices again except in memory and on video.
If God is a merciful as religions like to make it out to be then I see no reason why anyone should worry because God will take care of it all. Is that not something taught in religions? If I remember correctly, and I do, I was told that in my Christian upbringing.
So now we really come to the main matter. You think I'm acting like people aren't dead. Obviously you're not reading my blog correctly or you're using pet beliefs to finesse away what I've said so as to make me look wrong. I said to celebrate their life and escape from the pain of existence. I never said to act like they're dead.
Its been awhile since I typed my response so I'm sure exactly what was on my mind. I may not have been countering you precisely, but that is an opinion that I've felt in the past and maybe I just wanted an outlet for that opinion, because i stand by what I said, that mourning and funerals serve a purpose and that they should not be seen as terrible. You were saying that you did not see the point in them.
Yeah, many religions, specifically Christian support the idea of a merciful god, so if you believe wholeheartedly and without doubt you wouldn't worry. But in all honesty, who does? So when death comes it makes us fear and think about all the what ifs. What if there is no god or afterlife? What if I never see my loved ones again.
By the way, is your last sentence a typo?
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Most amongst are being raised and filled with fear about dead, just another way religious sects gain control over the mind of each and any they can capture within their intelligent ways of indoctrination.
Many times before I have mentioned this enslaving religious egg is bursting, while it’s only a matter of upcoming (generations) consciousness which will deal, while make sure this egg is going to be scattered to pieces.
If realization doesn’t kick in within this journey, another will follow and follow until all will realize, experience and understand infinity, all this while being in the physical.
The path of self-discovery will soon end for all to enjoy from, sadly enough, those who linger in falls beliefs of indoctrination will continue to struggle and create havoc upon this globe, all this because, while in the name of something they pretend to love in worship, willingly supporting that which kills and destroys the real truth of what IS.
Manmade lies…