I say wait until you are at least 25 to get married.
At 19-20 youth are still exploring who they are, what they like, what they want to do in life. Way too many females who get married at that age end up single again. Maturity is a bigger issue than age, but the younger you are, the more room there is to grow apart. Some NOT ALL females but some of them feel that just because their pregnant, they quickly rush into marriage. Get an education and make sure you have good job skills so you could support yourself in case stuff happens. The last thing you want to do is end up "one man away from the welfare line". That being said, many young females continue their education after marriage. I know it sounds very negative, it's sort of like saying you should hope & plan for the best, but be prepared for the worst. Enjoy your life, there is no rush, hang with friends, travel, be young!!!
I know a few young females rush into it, and it pressures guys and they feel trapped. Hate to say it but I think premarital sex killed marriage. I'm not saying never get married. I'm just saying get married with your eyes open. Well, my question was inspired by those who always tell people to wait till marriage to have children because then you know the man is committed, which is false. The true commitment comes long before marriage. I am married and don't demean the value of it at all. I am just aware that marriage doesn't make a person committed or honest. The honesty and commitment is in the heart, not the certificate. if a person is going to cheat, leave or remain they will do so regardless of marriage.
you can't tell the future so why even try to foretell how things are going to turn out, but faith, trust, love, and commitment should get people through things but it doesn't then maybe it is not meant to be
“You cannot wean away an addict from the drug. It is not possible for me to walk away from Ranjha. If it is our destiny to be together then who, other than God, can change it?”
she's a spaceman, no walker, dreamer...maybe
Not saying ALL young pregnant females are like this, what I'm saying is (Now happening just like I saw and foretold.)
I believe it’s better to get married after the age of 50, by the time one reaches that age, marriage belongs to a past, one distant past never to return again! Lol.
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I think irresponsibility in general has helped devolve marriage. People want everything - NOW. People have deluded themselves into accepting fairytales about love, life and marriage and continue to cling onto archaic "family values". Such as, you'll marry your highschool sweetheart and live happily ever after, or if you get pregnant then you should get married regardless of how you feel about one another. The pregnancy issue leads back to the whole irresponsibility thing. Accidents do happen, yes, but if you aren't in a serious, committed, monogamous relationship then you have absolutely no business whatsoever having unprotected sex without some form of birth control. Period.
I think it's best to date someone for at least 2-5 years or more before you decide to actually get married and always communicate clearly about what you both want out of life. Otherwise, one or the both of you will wind up unhappy.
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