If adoption is in the best interest of the child shouldn't we make sure that the natural parents are unfit to care for the child before placing their baby up for adoption in the first place?
Shouldn't we know for sure that the parents aren't being coerced? Shouldn't you have to admit that you would either neglect or abuse your child in order to adopt them out?
If the only reason for some adoption if that the parents fear they would be a bad parent shouldn't we just offer them parenting classes? Or if they fear not being able to feed their children shouldn't we tell them about food stamps? If they are worried about medical expenses should we tell them about medicaid?
I am not completely against adoption, but I think adoption should be for those that are abused and neglected.
For some reason a lot of people think adopted couples are the best. Hey they are giving a child that would have been in foster care a home. I have read where a adopted father forgot his adopted child in a hot car and the child dies, also where a adopted mother killed her adopted baby (this happens more than you think).
All parties involved should always have the children's best interest at hand. Unfortunately that is not always the case. I do understand what you are saying. Adoption is permanent. I feel if parents are stable and the child could be provided for than perhaps all they need is support. However, if they insist that they aren't ready, adoption is not the only option. Guardianship is a better way. It is not permanent. Even permanent guardianship can be terminated if the parent decides down the road that they want the child back.
or willing to raise a child, I would be inclined to assume they are right and that adoption is a good thing. Sadly, adoption is expensive and the waiting period is very long. Far more unwanted children end up in foster care than are adopted. this is a problem in our country, and one that I think deserves attention. We make no rules regarding who may become pregnant and give birth, but we impose all kinds of restrictions and fees on people who want to be parents, but can't? Meanwhile we subject kids to unstable living environments where they are constantly moved around and shuffled through the system, often abused by caretakers that signed up just for the extra few hundred bucks a month because they are that desperate for money. Its really very sick.
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We make no rules regarding who may become pregnant and give birth, but we impose all kinds of restrictions and fees on people who want to be parents, but can't?