What I wanna know is whether he could really fall in love with his mistress and leave his home. And which would be the reasons for him doing that?
Please, make me grasp the situation.
I believe love is complicated and is hard to control. Of course, it’s difficult not to feel infuriated by this, especially when you’re married. But everyone has always a good reason for doing something we consider wrong, and feelings shouldn’t be ignored.Sometimes life takes a direction that you didn't think possible and then you have to cope with it. It's not just this, but I saw already in my surroundings that sometimes things happen that you never expected not only on the love -side of life but in every aspect. Other people may do the right thing in this aspect of life but do big mistakes in others.. It doesn't make you a bad person, maybe a stupid person in that moment yes, but not a malicious one. I just learn that you just know certain situations when you are in it and not from outside... not only in this case but also regarding other problems.
It's possible to love many people, your family, close friends, your children, the human heart has no limits, so yes, I think he can love a woman like that. We can live in any world we want to create around us, but the reality will hurt us again and again trying to say "be sometimes more realistic". And the only way out is trying to be honest with yourself.
I need your insights to this mind boggling question.. thanks.
I am assuming this is about your husband?
In answer to the question as it is posed in the title, of course, anything is possible. Is it right? I don't know. Is it permissible? It seems you already answered that for yourself. You have already given all kinds of reasons.
Obviously, this must be painful for you, especially considering your situation with your son.
One thing I have learned in my life is that it is a waste of time to try to figure someone else out, including the "possibilities" of their actions, or the reasons why.
What is important is to focus on yourself, and to become strong and independent, allowing others to truly have free will, and to be able to deal with it when they leave.
Making yourself a "burden," by reminding the person of all the reasons they are obligated to you is only going to cause everyone involved more pain, including yourself. (I say this not assuming that you do this, but because I have done it, and it is a frequent response to this kind of dilemma.)
That age old saying "If you love someone, let them go, if they come back to you it is meant to be," has so much universal truth, it should be said much more often.
If you remove your ego from the situation, and allow the person to have total freedom of will, without trying to impose guilt, that person will be in a much better place to really be honest with himself, and won't have your neediness as an excuse to keep floundering around what he really wants or needs to do.
It is amazing, the power of detachment. Allowing others the space to really deal with themselves is an art form, and not one that comes naturally.
I pray for you, and your son to find the strength necessary to get through these times.
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