Is that a match?

I have a profile on several dating sites. One site where I thought for sure I’d have a positive response there has been nothing of the sort and they’ve lost some of my messages in an attempt to upgrade their site, but at this point I feel like I must thank them. The site in question did apologize for messing up the message delivery system, and companies don’t often do that, or they do but its hidden behind public relations stuff. This was an honest to god apology and I’m glad about that but what about my messages? Someone out there who might make a good friend or be my soul mate may never have received my message. Now onto another dating site, this one provides” quick matches” but so far they haven’t really been matches, and they highlight various terms that are supposed to be held in common by two parties but aren’t. And get this, they sent me an email of someone who has rated me 4-5 stars on the “quick match” thing and no I cannot go straight to their profile to see who it is, I am first required to rate 9-12 other people and somewhere in there is the person who rated me. SO really I might end up rating 100s of people to find a friend or partner. Absurd. The site also asks for ones sexual orientation which I feel as though is an invasion of privacy.