Well I’ve been one of the guys for almost my whole life. All I know is that it really sucks. Every one of my guy friends and even the guys in my family think of me as a cousin or they're really good sister. Maybe I do act a little like a dude. There was one guy who thought of me as more but we're not together anymore and since then I've clenched the sister spot. When your the one that they confided in. but can't see themselves with you even more stuck, than you were when the guy didn't know you at all. I don't want to be all showy, showy and act like the rest of the girls I see. Why is getting the guy so hard but talking to tem is easier than tying my shoes? Would It be advisable to give up now a wait a while or go as long as it takes? I just need a few tips on how to move from that spot with out compromising me as a person and everything that I stand for along with everything I've done to keep me grounded.
Thanx for the help. Peace/Love/Shwiz FOREVER BABY
One of the Guys
By punkshreads - Posted on March 20th, 2009
Tagged: friendships
• love
Ah yes...I too have been back and forth with this problem. Actually I had for the longest time gone between being invisible and one of the guys.
I say go on being who YOU are...never compromise that for a relationship/love, in the long run this, in my opinion, will lead to misery. Mr Happy/Right will appreciate and love you for who you are, not some imaginary trick. If you decieve it will be a lie for life and leave you questioning where you went wrong.
I tried the phony and not only hurt the other person but myself too. I went back to being me, found somebody for the first time in my life that actually let me be myself and accepted and loved me anyway.
Good luck
There are very few human beings who receive the truth, complete and staggering, by instant illumination. Most of them acquire it fragment by fragment, on a small scale, by successive developments, cellularly, like a laborious mosaic.~- Anais Nin
thanx alot