How do you really know when it is the right time for you to get married? Should you be a certain age? Should you be with someone for a certain amout of time? Should your parents decide?
I am a 18 ½ year old female who recently graduated from high school and I am not attending college. I have noticed that quit a few people that I graduated with has gotten married and moved away. Some of them have forgot all about college and others are still attending school. Then I have some of my friends that have been in a relationship with there partners for a long time but they are not even thinking about marriage.
I have been in many relationships and I am actually back talking to one of my ex that I broke up with on Valentines Day and started talking to another person. My ex never did anything to me, I just wanted out. I know have realized that I think he may be the person for me. He is always there for me, he gives me anything I want and he is able to give me, he goes out his way for me and he has never gave me to doubt him in any way!
Would I want to Marry him? When will I know if it’s right? 2 years from now? 6 months from now? When he ask me? If he ask me?
I always wondered when someone knew when was the right time. I don’t plan on even thinking about marriage until I get out of college, but It is just a thought and I looking for some opinions.
1) Some people are too young for marriage at 18, others are not. It really depends on the person.
2) I dated a guy that was sweet as can be, the type who would open doors for me and paid for dinner and movies, and was willing to try new things with me and everything. But, I didn't like him all that much. He wasn't my type... I couldn't hold a really good conversation with him, he had problems putting his thoughts into words (and after being on this site for over two years, that was a pretty major flaw), and wasn't college educated. He had plans to go back to college, but I know he would have struggled through it. I would have had no issue being friends with him, but I would have been miserable in a relationship.
Moral of the story? It's not all about what he does for you. He sounds like a great guy, but if you two don't have chemistry, it'll be a difficult relationship.
~C
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I think it is about the level of the maturity than the age. Well after 18..
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hey there, glad to see you contemplating this, at least you are not jumping in with both feet and no mindset... i got married at 21 and my husband was 3 wks shy of his 20th bday, we've been married almost 5 yrs now, its hard, but rewarding... anyway short answer is u r ready when u have no doubts about the commitment u and ur partner are willing to put in to the relationship, if u r questioning ur love or his love, or faithfulness etc... then u r not ready, but when all doubt is gone, that's a good sign... u should check out my blog Marriage 101: I Do, it talks about how necessary commitment is to marriage, also, if u like it there's a link for u to vote for it on crosslites.com , id really appreciate it if u voted positively if u like it, soooooooo many blessings to you and yours
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Form someone who knows little about love and less about marriage:
You may never be certain but when you look forward to spending the rest of your life arguing with him and struggling through the difficulties such as money troubles, health, and raising kids.
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