Teenage Sex, to help or not to help?

I just learn something about my sister and niece that had make me very uncomfortable. My niece and sister are both teenagers in high school, who has boyfriends. As teenagers filled with hormones, they are both engaging in teenage sex. I had told my sister about birth control and how to use a condom.

I had given my sister three condom to use if she had ever been in a situation where she will be govern by her hormones instead of reasons. I had taken the times to inform my sister of various birth control methods and how to put a condom on correctly. She had recently started to have sex with her boyfriend and use the condoms that I had given her.

He lives far away and visits on school holidays, since he is junior in high school whereas she is a sophomore. She did not go to the clinic to get contraceptives because she is scared.

She is afraid of talking to a stranger (I took her to Planned Parenthood) about having sex and is too embarrassed about it. So now, when I go to visit my family, I must take her to Planned Parenthood to get the birth control.

I know that my sister’s boyfriend lives in Fresno and she had a lesser chance of getting pregnant, but she will be inform about all possible options since she is already engaging in sexual activities.

I do not want her to deal with a teenage pregnancy. I just hope that she does not get pregnant while I am up here at college. I scared that if I were not there for her, she might be too scared to get birth control.

My mother does not know what contraceptive is and she thinks that it is embarrassing to talk about such matters.

My niece on the other hands do not had the same benefits. She had an older sister, but she is married with two kids and lives in Fresno. She had several older brothers but they are not very close. She had chosen to act on her hormones and have sex with her high school sweetheart but she does not use condoms or birth control.

She has a more possible chance of getting pregnant than my sister since she goes to the same school as her boyfriend whereas my sister boyfriend lives in Fresno, a four hour commute. She do had a limited knowledge of birth control thanks to sex education at school but the word birth control or contraceptives do not exist in her house nor does it exist in ours.

She is too scared and embarrassed to go to a clinic to get birth control or contraceptive, for she fears that her parents will found out and too scared to talk to a complete stranger about sex since it is something that her parents had failed to talk to her about. Birth control or contraceptives do not exist in her house, for all they know, it is an urban legend.

When you live in a household where the adults, such as my parents and my aunt, who do not talk openly to their children about sexual activities or birth control because it is embarrassing, then the children shall be too scared to talk to their parents about sexual activities and too embarrassed to go to a clinic to get contraceptives if they chose to have sex.

I think that is why there is so much teenage pregnancy; especially in states that teach abstinence only sex education. Since teenagers are discouraged from using birth control or condom because they had a 99% chance of getting pregnant, they are less likely to use such device if they do engage in sexual activities.

So what about you, what do you think I should do about my niece? I want to help her by taking her to Planned Parenthood when I take my sister, but I know that her parents shall blame me for everything if they discover birth control devices or condoms. I do not want to bear the sole responsibility of her sexual activates but I also do not want her to travel down the path of teenage pregnancy too.

She is having sex with her boyfriend and I acknowledge that. Her parents will blame me for corrupting her by providing contraceptives for her since they do not want to acknowledge their failures to teach their daughter about the birds and the bees.

If you were in my situation, what would you do? There is hope for my sister, since I am willing to take the blames if my parents discover her “evidences” and it would be a family affair just between my parents, my sister, and I but for my niece, if her parents discover the evidence, they shall call all the relatives to my house if I return during college breaks during the winters or summer, and publicly humiliate me for corrupting their daughter by having the relatives tell me that I should not intervene in family matters.

I am worried about my niece, but I also do not want to get blame by her parents for corrupting her or creating a family feud between us.