It's been a while since I wrote my first blog,but now I'm now ready to write the second one. The title may seem familiar to most of you but there are some that won't understand it. To make it clear I'll explain it. You see,this may be hard to believe(and understand), but I haven't had a best friend since I was seven years old!! Before then there are only two that I can safely recall.
The first was an Indian girl. I don't remember her name but I do remember that I liked hanging out with her,we laways did interesting things(at the time,looking up at the skies and making shapes out of the clouds,playing inspector gadget,etc.). I kind of had a strong feeling that I could trust her, even at such a young age(Iwas about 3).
I remember my second best friend's name, it was Stefanie. I became friends with Stefanie when I moved to her school. I relocated to the U.S. from Sierra Leone and was 6yrs old at the time. She was my first friend in the U.S. We lived in the same neighborhood also so that helped alot. We were truly inseperable but then m family and I had to move to Florida (we were in Maryland at the time) so we had to say our goodbyes. At such a young age though I didn't truly know what it truly meant to lose a friend. I only started to feel the loss when I got to middle school and saw that life isn't as simple as choosing between beef or pork for lunch.
As of right now, I can truly say that there is a sense of loneliness somewhere deep inside my heart. This,I assume, comes from the lack of someone in my life with whom I can share all my secrets, and there are so many of these(secrets that is) that I feel overwhelmed. As I am writing this I am crying to myself because I can't help but think that my life will be so much more easier and days brighter if I had a friend to share my dillemas and triumphs with. Don't get me wrong, my life is quite alrite and my family is super loving, but there are just some things that you'll rather get a friends perspective on rather that your parents and sisters. I just wish that I would have that friend that I could trust implicitly, that would help me nderstand myself better.
I wonder if I ever would!!....:(
I believe it goes deeper then just not having that best friend. People like us that moved around a lot of kids do not have friendships the same as other. We know that there is that good chance that we will have to say goodbye and never again see them. We build up walls and protect ourselves from such pain. I know that it hurts when my wife talks to her best friend that she has had since the first grade. I want that I would have love to have been normal, lived in the same place all my life I would have love to have friends that I could have know all my life but those are not the card I have been dealt. I have some great stories from my childhood that I would not trade for more friends. I hold on tighter to my friends now I may never call them my best friend but they are there for me if I need them.
"Something given has no value"~Robert Heinlein
"Having been poor is no shame, but being ashamed of it, is." Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richards Almanack, 1749
it's so hard to say goodbye...to yesterday :{
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"The heart's memory eliminates the bad and magnifies the good."
- Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Love in the Time of Cholera
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Yup! I agree with you on that. I mean, not everyone of us could just confide with our family (especially to our parents); there are just some things that we could tell only our friends. Why? It may be because we spen most of the entire day with them. Or it could be that they are going through the same as we do....
I can relate with you.But don't give up hope. You never know when you some across a friend that changes your life.
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It always seems impossible until it is done-Nelson Mandela.
I'm 16 and have lived in 7 states and I can understand the pain of loneliness that results from moving. I've had three best friends in my life. This time a year ago, I thought I had the best friend in the whole world. Since then, however, I almost can't stand being around her because she's really hurt me over the past year and being around her reminds me of all the good and bad memories she's caused me, all the trust I had given her, and how badly she let me down when I needed her most.
However, when I did have a best friend, I really appreciated the ability to confide in someone else about my problems. If you're religious, maybe you should get a spiritual director. I have one and he's incredible. It's so nice knowing that I can complain about anything and everything and he'll listen and even help me!
RESPECT LIFE
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"It is poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish."
~Mother Teresa
I have moved around at least six or seven times. and more schools all together. recently I have lost many of my friends( best friends included)
i am still trying to get over it, but i think i will always have pain when i think about them.
you must move on. stop thinking about best friends and start trying to find personal happiness.
not until you truly love yourself can you truly love someone else.
please don't beat yourself over this. that is just a waste of time.