Everyone has been taught in elementary school about the dinner between the pilgrims and indians. But whats the underlining meaning of this dinner? The coming together of friends and family. To be thankful of all that we have. Right?
I invited my boyfriend of an year and a half to join my families thanksgiving dinner. I told my aunts about it and they were fine with it, or so i thought. Im not the type to parade my boyfriend around my family, because my very personal about my love life. I finally decided to let my family meet him a few months ago. It was a big step for me. They seemed nice to him.
Oh and a little backgound about my boyfriend, he left the marines 2 months ago, and is currently unemployed. He is "trying" to look for a job, but no luck so far. All he has in ny is his mom and his bother (who he currently doesnt talk to )They dont really celebrate thanksgiving because a majority of their family is in seattle.
I thought it would be nice to invite him to my families Thanksgiving dinner. We go to my aunt Jade's house in nj every year, i asked my aunt christina to ask her if it was ok for me to bring a friend. Christina said it was fine to bring him. So i told him that he could go, he was so happy that he went out that week to buy 2 bottles of red wine, because he didnt want to go empty handed. Then yesturday my aunt christina told me that i need to ask aunt jade personally if i can bring my boyfriend. And mentioned something along the lines, "if your not gonna married him dont even bother bringing him.... And if course your not going to marry him... HAHAHA" ( shes a gold digger and the fact that he didnt have money and was unsure about his future, she thought that he was not someone to be serious with).
She then passed me the phone already dialing aunt Jade. " You need to ask her yourself." So i did. I asked her if i can bring my boyfriend, and she was like "mimi, are you serious with this guy? because if your not and you dont think its notgoing to last a long time don't lead him on and bring him to thanksgiving dinner and meet everyone...Thanksgiving dinner is for family" I knew where she was coming from and it made sense to me. I never thought of it like that, i always just thought thanksgiving dinner was for friends and family. Now im confused if i should really bring my bf. What if it doesnt last? Am i really leading him on? I care about him but im only 19, im not ready to get married anytime soon. And honestly, i dont think i would end up marring him. Is it wrong to bring him? Is it wrong to not bring him?
I always thought Thanksgiving was about being grateful for what you have. You, at this moment, have someone to share your happiness and love with. Why shouldn't you be able to share with your family what you have to be grateful for right now.
I'm going to a friend's house for Thanksgiving, and celebrating with his family. Another friend is joining us from the next state over. Both of our immediate families live a couple thousand miles away and plane tickets are expensive. So, we're celebrating with a friend's family this year. Thanksgiving is about giving thanks. Some people choose to do so with their families, but that doesn't mean it is necessarily a family-only holiday.
I say bring him.
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way of celebrating. Personally, I'm going to spend the day performing at a football game, then I'll probably sit down to dinner with my family. We don't have much in the way of tradition.
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Thanksgiving is about giving thanks to all the blessings you have. Thanksgiving is a celebration for close people in your life which would include your boyfriend.
It sounds like he is really excited. it would be rude to tell him that he couldn't come after he has been told he could come.
i think he should go.