I have conducted a research and found out that a lot of people wear different image in public from what they have in private places (home). Not such a popular figure but to an extent known by few people due to my political involvement in school and having to represent my country (Nigeria) in one of the latest African day in Warsaw Poland.
Recently, it began to dawn on me how figures could change having met with some real public figures like ambassadors and kinds, are they really what they portray? Can the member of their families say they are nice the way we say it out here or vice versa? If not, why do people have dual characters especially when hey become public images? These questions were my driving force to this topic which I have made a point of duty to ask different people. I got some response of course but can these be all?
I want to belief that the private self is the real self, you are the person you want to be when you are within the walls of your house without camera and press all around and does this mean when you portray different character out there, then you are not real to your public self?
Its said that people are trained to put up a character out there which is satisfactory to the society they find themselves, this is because they believed its proper the way the society wants them to and thus, this ends up being distinct from their private self, the question still lingers, should we fake our public image?
During a political campaign in school, a guy accused me of always dressing in a corporate way during elections and campaign. claiming I should rather dress like that all the time or campaign with my jeans and t-shirts ( usual dress code), can this also mean I am faking my public image?
This questions remained unsolved, i will appreciate the knowledge of what is expected of a public figure in dressing, conduct and social life in general.
There is nothing wrong with presenting a proper front. It's just standard proffesionalism. As long as your personality remains constant, there is no reason why you can dress as is appropriate for each situation. Similarly, it is expected and understood that your are more coridial in official circumstances and more familiar and jovial with your close friends. In fact, in many countries, if you adressed a coworker in the familiar or a firend by a term of respect, they would be insulted.
I like to believe that people's true selves are a combination of who they are in public and who they are at home. Of course we act differently in public. We want to make good impressions on people. There's a higher degree of formality when it comes to being in the public eye. You have to be able to impress people. Only when people are safely within the walls of their homes, or in any other place outside of the public eye, can they relax more. Society has determined that certain ways of behaving, dressing, etc. are appropriate in certain times and places.
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
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so sorry i could not comment earlier than now.
ok, i will like to believe here that what u mean is that we do not have stable attitude. in that case, can we relate this to being unpredictable?
I think it is a combination. what is personality and what does it mean to be yourself. i think it is a combination of what we are, what others think we are, and our dreams of what we want to be.
Most amongst do so, only to fit in and avoid degrees of ridicule or worse, the reason and origin is to be found in British mingling all around this globe, them being the most stiff individuals ever to have infected the human ego to become a joke upon its own.
People fear to have their ego to be judge upon because it affects their emotional state.
So, some rely on their common sense which allows them to wonder around other while being considered normal, lol.
We all know, the reason why a female receives a drink in a bar from a complete stranger, lol.
http://www.wowzone.com/monkey.htm
It's not necessarily faking, although it may be. When I first meet someone, I try to be respectful, and fairly normal. Meaning I don't insult them or start talking about my musical theatre obsession. I may hide some of my opinions if a controversial issue pops up. Then ease the person into some of my abnormalities little by little. But most people aren't that good at hiding everything about themselves, so an obnoxious skateboarder wouldn't be able to blend in with a group of middle-aged uptight Shakespaere professors.
The British aren't that strict. You ever watch British comedy?
Like what you've read? Well, then here's more:
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/tricia0711
Sure, have a peek, which is my real self!?
http://ajanlo.kapu.hu/pics.php?d=cardiff
When sober, they are emotionally stiffened, not strict,
Germans are strict!
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