College does not leave room for love

You know that feeling you get when you finally find someone who completes you? Who makes you feel special and alive?
Well, I found him. We met at community college. I've never really dated anyone older than me before... I'm 19 and he's 21. He graduated from the college last winter, but decided to put in an extra term to get his degree specialized. He's got his associates of applied science and just had it appended for specialization in technology management. He's going to be attending Eastern Michigan University, where both my older brothers got their bachelors. So it's kind of cool that he's transfering to a school I'm already familiar with and I can go visit him because its only a 45 minute drive. And he had a successful job too- data support technician for La-z-boy. He only worked weekends, crazy hours though so it was already hard for us to find time to spend together because I also have two jobs and attend community college full time. But last weekend he got laid off. I wasn't too upset. Sure he was making good money... great money, but he really needed some time off. Ever since then he's been stressing about trying to find a new job, transfering colleges, and I think it's starting to take a toll on our relationship. I've never been in a relationship quite like this. He told me I'm the first girl he ever fell for, and he was afraid he was going to hurt me and we almost parted ways for good, but I told him I'd try to make it work, but it's killing me inside. The thought of him leaving for another college and leaving me behind scares me. He's really geeky, no lie, but it surprises me how someone so amazing and attractive hasn't been snatched up by another girl despite his obvious nerd qualities. I want him to be successful and I want him to be happy doing what he loves to do, but sometimes I wish we could go back in time to the good ole days where the wife would wear a cute dress and cook dinner for her husband. And he'd come home with his business suit on and his brief case. They'd kiss and enjoy a wonderful dinner together in their lovely home with the white picket fence. I want that old school kind of happiness, the kind where love can be enough. But out here in the real world love has to take a back seat to progress. Life must move forward, we must have an extended education to be successful and prosper, and sometimes love gets ignored and left behind in the process. That's what happened to my last relationship. I moved on to college and left him back in high school, I was moving forward in my life by getting a job and going to school and meeting new people. The drastic change in my lifestyle truly affected the relationship we had tried for a year to sustain. Yet now, I live every moment feeling like the one I left behind in high school, and that I too will be left behind by my new love. I can only hope that love can triumph over the temptations of the real world and that when college is through and life can finally begin, that he will begin his with me.

misnomer's picture

I once admitted to my boyfriend at the time that if either of us had the choice between going to our dream colleges, and being together, I wanted us both to choose the college. In a way, I guess it was a good thing, partially because it didn't last anyways, but I thought if we really meant that much to each other we would be able to get past separation and be willing to make it work.

College is definitely a test of love.

Like what you've read? Well, then here's more:
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/tricia0711

I have to pretty much agree. I'm trying to pursue this girl, but she goes to another school and we're both up to our necks in classes. Is this the right time? If we wait, will it be too late?
all very good questions to be asking yourself...

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