The, rather, A female perspective

Too many times have I heard this story. I am a nice guy? Why don't girls like me? And in some sense I sympathize, but also, I think there is more to the story than that and I'd like to break down some of my personal observations as to why the "nice guy" should quit complaining and maybe step up his game.

1) Most of the time, the nice guy story comes from males who are teenagers to in their early twenties. This is a difficult time for all people this age, be you male or female. Also, this is the point in many people's lives when they are just "experimenting" with the whole dating game. Its about figuring out what you like and don't like in people, and then moving onto someone new and doing the same thing. And to be quite honest, this is a time full of "drama". And, for the most part, I think that a lot of girls feed off of this drama at this point in their lives. So "bad boys" = drama=what they want right now. However, I think most people (including girls) grow up, and eventually you nice guys (most not all of the time) end up winners.

2)There is a difference between being a nice guy and being a doormat. I think nice guys would even agree that it would get a little annoying to have a girl like you so much that if you told her to jump off a bridge, she would literally do it. And sometimes, thats what nice guys come off as. Sure, its nice that you are there for us, but you don't have to make it known. Its about the thrill of the chase for guys, but that also applies to girls too. And, although fighting should have limits, little arguments kind of make a relationship. You learn to work through things and become stronger from it. You can still be a nice guy and voice your opinion! You don't have to bend over backwards for a girl (most of us can take care of ourselves).

3)Are you "nice guys" going for nice girls? Just think about it :D.

4)Get out of the house! The reason girl's date jerks is because jerks go out on the town. They go to social hangouts, where girls end up looking to meet guys! I know that most nice guys usually hang out at home, or have a select group of friends that they are always with. See the problem here? It doesn't give you the ability to branch out and meet girls! You are already decreasing your odds against jerks, by letting them infest all the places girl's go to.

5)Attraction. Sometimes, as much as you like someone, they just aren't feeling you as much as you are feeling them. Its a fact of life, and really there is nothing you can do about it, but fell sad for a bit, maybe cry, and then move on to someone who is willing to put as much effort into you as you are into them. Don't try to change someone's feelings, because rarely does it work.

Basically that is all I can think of in response. I just hear the nice guy plight so much, and I've done my best to offer some sort of solution. And I guess, if you don't buy into any of these points, good luck with the course you are going down!

Or try to get a spot in the Reality Series on VH1 The Pick-up Artist. ha ha.

I'm a firm believer that everything works out how it is supposed to in the end and I honestly do wish you all the best of luck. Nice guys will win out! :D