I am very sure someone out there will tell me this is normal, i am not saying its not cause we now live in a world where abnormalities are being considered the order of the day. Just that if we take a very close look at out neighbourhood, families and friends, society at large, we will see how abnormal it is to come from a broken home. I am talking about divorce. Dont get me wrong, there are extreme situations that calls for it buty what about simple misunderstanding. We see3m not to realise that when people get involved in this act or in the process of it, there are subjecting the innocent kids ( where there are kids) to emotional trauma.
Some couples even get into physical fight right before the kids and unknown to them, they are building a wrong futiure for the poor kids to see, showing bad example for them to follow, leaving unpleasant stories for them to tell.
It is unfortunate that the whoe idea has become part opf our society that we do not see it anymore especially in the USA, over 80 percent of the kids you find and speak to are from broken homes, you can feel their pains and sadness even when they try to smile.
Lets bring joy back to our world, lets say NO to divorce cos when u do, u not only break the home but you break the live(s)b of those children. Discourage it.
THINK OF ME BEFORE YOU BREAK UP
By yemdarl - Posted on October 25th, 2008
Wow 80%!! Can you support that statistic? I am just curious if that is an actual number or not.
It's hard for me to say no to divorce, especially because my parents divorced and I am divorced once myself. I left my wife because she was cheating on me. I love my children to death, but why should I be forced to live with someone like that just to keep my children happy. Does my happiness count?
I am a proponent of making adultery a criminal act again. That statement ought to ruffle some feathers.
Peace.
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Respectfully,
Adam L. Labonoski
look at this;
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%
Iwill use his messae to respond o Adams and Meke, i want to believe something atracted you to that partner before u got together, all relationships suffer misunderstandig, the solution is patience and tolerance. whe hse are missing, people no longer see asons to be together again. why not get back to the basis and sort things out instead of settling for divorce. U CAN STIL PROVE ME WRON BUT I STAND AGAINST DIVORCE
put the kids in mind.
I personally have never experienced divorce, within my immediate family or extended. But I have seen the effects of it with kids I work with. I am currently employed at a Boys and Girls Club and many of the kids I work with come from broken homes. Most of them understand what happened between their parents but others suffer and take example from their quarreling parents. Some are desperate for attention and affection to the point of being innappropriate with others. And at other times some kids lash out violently at others because of what they experienced at home during the divorce. A lot of times I wonder if the parents even considered their kids wellbeing for a minute when they decided on fighting and ultimately getting a divorce. Kids will often be confused by which parent to trust and depend on. When adults in their lives are fighting with eachother and trying to out do one another the child is shoved into the background, and forgotten.Now, don't get me wrong I'm not saying stay together no matter what divorce is the devil. I'm just pointing out that parents who choose to get a divorce should put their kids first and work things out peacfully or behind closed doors away from their children.
I was also a teacher few years bak before i travelled from Nigeia. looking into the eyes of those kids, talking to them, you can share in their pains. i really dont know how it can change, te worst part is that it has become normal in the society. do your part to encourage the kids t move on in life and discurage this normal abnormal act.
I had no idea I was in so much pain because my parents aren't together. While I understand that divorce can be hard for kids sometimes, is that really worse than parents staying together and hating each other for the rest of their lives? Is that really a good home for a child? There is no joy in being married to someone you hate, or living with two parents who hate each other. Even if they don't fight in front of the children, the kids will still sense their resentment for each other and feel uncomfortable.
Leave Canada, please - Canadian Dude
I, for one, am glad my parents aren't together anymore. They don't get along as it is, and they live across the country from one another. I don't know if I could handle them living in the same house, spending hours and hours a day with each other.
Yes, divorce is rampant today. But some people really do need to get divorced, because they shouldn't have been married in the first place. In that case, the children shouldn't be the glue that binds them together.
~C
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If you say " because they shouldn't have been married in the first place" where and what should we then put the blame. that they were not compatible at the first place or that they were carried away? maybe we should say they are both selfish and self centered. this is crazy, anyhow, it has to stop. lets be sincere, if ur parents were together and things were peaceful, would u have still preferd them being seperate? so what can the world do to at least reduce the spread of this "infection"
My dad cheated on my mom. I would not want to wish my mom to be with him after that. He was incredibly selfish and didn't care about my mom. I mean, I'm glad they got together, because I wouldn't be here otherwise, but they don't belong together. He then married a woman that really really should never have had children (but sadly, she did, with my dad). I blame him for being so stupid as to marry her in the first place, when she would sit there and claim that she was my 'real' mom, and that my 'birth' mom really didn't care about me. I blame her for being such a bitch in the first place, and feel incredibly sorry for anyone who actually does go through with marrying her. I would not wish my father to remain with her either.
~C
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Like others have stated divorce can be a good thing for a family somethings. Because if the family is miserable then it is best to make the situation better. In situations like cheating, domestic violence, and the people just drifting apart.
Some people do jump into it to quickly and then they get a divorce because they rushed into it. But at this point I'm not one who really believes in marriage either soo...I guess my opinion is skewed.
I did watch this movie though where they had a funeral type thing for the child's parent's after their divorce. It was actually pretty cool because it seemed like there was closure. They stated the things they loved about each other and apologized.
Come to the darkside....we have cookies ;)
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