Today I read on AOL News about the mother who is accussed of pestering her 13 year old daughter's ex with nude pictures of him that she will post on the internet. Blatant threats laced in hundreds of emails. True this mother sounds outright crazy but another thought rose in my mind: Why are 13 year olds participating in pornography? They had naked pictures of themselves in their cellphones and exchange them via the internet or multimedia text messaging. When I was thirteen I remember doing no such thing. An when did it start that kids were engaging in pornography in their relationships?
It is despicable how children are mirroring older peoples' sexual practices. First of all children should not be dating at such an early age. There is no love involved, all lust - which is purely silly. Whoever says they're in love when they're that young is ultimately wrong. And are they sending naked pictures of themselves? They could be comfortable with their bodies or really like the person - but you don't need to do all of that to show you affection. But at 13 I would expect kids to be kids - play with their friends, hang out, and at the very least - go on group dates.
I think that parents should enforce stricter regulations for their child's dating escapades. And back to the story of the mother who is threatening her daughter's ex, why do you want your daughter to date so badly? I'm confused - maybe its because of the way that I was brought up that I wasn't allowed to date till I was 16, but why is this mother so concerned about her daughter's relationships. It is strikingly odd how she is doing all of these things to get that 13 yr old boy to "get with" her daughter. You would think that people would be much more sensible than that.
Is it the media's fault for children partaking in "pornography," or faulty parental restrictions? Aside from all that confuses me about this is do these kids possess integrity? They probably don't even understand the true meaning of that, but if they loved themselves enough they wouldn't be doing this. It could probably work with people who are truly in love and can't see each other because of long distance or the like - but for mere children that probably meet up at school?
I don't think so.
I can't understand why you would ever give anyone naked pictures of yourself. As shown in your example, it really is just fodder for blackmail and humiliation. However I have to sympathize with parents a little bit. They cannot control every aspect of their child's life, many kids date young and simply don't tell their parents. If a boy and a girl really like each other, there may be nothing to stop them from getting together, whether it's love or not.
There should not be stricted restrictions on dating, but better parenting overall. A mother should start engaging in conversations about sexuality and ask questions. there should be open discussion between the parent and the child. I am sure any reasonable mother would not condone a child sending naked of themselves via a moblie.
this as you said is a lack of respect for their bodies. and it demostrates low self esteem.
i do not think the blame should be pointed to the media , but to the parent's inability to address issues about sexuality, thus creating confusion for the child.
i also do not think it matters when they start dating or not. The problem is serious dating. Jumping into serious dating too fast too young leaves ample room for mistakes and little mobility.
I agree with you on this about the parent's inability to address issues about sexuality. Parents should really do more to avoid this.