While my family has always told me abortions wrong, and I don't believe I would ever have an abortion, I want to know how other's in today's society feel about it. I completely understand if it comes down to the last minute and the doctor says if the mother has child, the mother will die. Do people think that's even right?
I have a friend that has a girlfriend that gets pregnant all the time. I don't know if she doesn't use a condom, doesn't take her birth control pills or what it is, but she seems as if she is always pregnant. The thing that gets me though, is that she doesn't have any children to show for it. She is now 20 years old and the doctor has told her if she has one more abortion it is going to mess her insides up. Every time I think about it, I get angry because she has killed so many lives that could have been somethings, wonderful in this life. Her father, the one who always pays for the abortions because the girl is way too spoiled doesn't even care. The boy that my have been the father to these children, wants a baby BAD....but the girlfriend never lets anyone know she was pregnant until she has already had the abortion.
My mother is supposedly against abortion 100%, however, my father told me not that long ago that she wanted to have abortion with me, and he gave her the money for it, but my mother took the money and ran off with it. Well, as everyone can see, I am here....which sometimes I wish my mother would have had an abortion with me.
I feel that if I laid down and produced the child, then I am to take care of the child. God gave me the blessing for a reason.
How do you feel about abortions?
Abortions are a touchy subject, that's for sure. Personally, I'm against abortions, unless it comes down to a serious medical problem. I feel like every child conceived has a right to life, and if the parents don't want the child, there is always adoption. And there are people like me in the world who don't want to have children, but want instead to adopt, to give some of those children who have no family a loving home.
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
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I beg you to follow through on that. Not so much the not having kids part, I thought that myself many times upon a long time ago.
From your blogs I can tell you have within you what it takes to be a great parent, and there are millions of American children who need people like you!
Even if you don't go so far as to adopt a child, I think your life would be greatly enhanced by working with children, on any level.
I also have a feeling you have what it takes to work with disadvantaged children.
I could be wrong, but my intuition is speaking loudly right now.
"Consistency is not a human trait" - Maude, from Harold and Maude
The not having kids thing is mostly due to the fact that my family has a terrible medical history, and I don't want to pass that on to anyone. From diabetes and heart disease to several types of cancer to autoimmune diseases a lot of doctors refuse to believe exist... tis awful.
And you're the first person who's ever told me I'd make a great parent. I actually never thought I would, but I'm pretty sure that's just my self-esteem talking. Mostly. But it means a lot to me that you think so. ^-^
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
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I dont agree with abortion. Unless there is a life threatening medical condition that my endanger the life of the mother, the mother should have the child. If the mother doesn't want the child then simply find a loving couple through an adoption agency.
No to abortion - it is sickening how many irresponsible people use it as a form of birth control. In the majority of cases, Sweet babies are being murdered because of selfish irresponsible people.
Well, if nothing else, abortion has kept our population down quite a bit. Considering we have over 6 billion people on this planet and aren't sure of our capacity, that might not be a bad thing.
Personally, I'm against abortion, especially when women use it for birth control. That is, I do not agree that it is the best course of action, nor do I think that I would ever choose to have an abortion myself. However, I do not begrudge women who do have abortions, nor do I believe that there should be any laws restricting access to abortion. It would just make things difficult for the women who do truly need those abortions.
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I feel that abortion is a personal, private matter. It's none of my business what anyone else does with their reproductive organs.
I have a friend that has a girlfriend that gets pregnant all the time. I don't know if she doesn't use a condom, doesn't take her birth control pills or what it is, but she seems as if she is always pregnant. The thing that gets me though, is that she doesn't have any children to show for it. She is now 20 years old and the doctor has told her if she has one more abortion it is going to mess her insides up.
I find this very hard to believe. For decades in Russia, women used abortion as their primary form of birth control because they didn't have access to any other reliable contraception. It is common for Russian women to have had dozens of abortions over their lifetimes, and they still manage to get pregnant again and again. Legal abortion is very safe and doesn't "mess up your insides."
If that is true about your friend, I don't think that what she is doing is right.
However, I also think it would be wrong to make abortion illegal.
Not everyone who has had an abortion is like your friend.
The fact that abortion exists is not why your friend does what she does.
She does what she does because she is an irresponsible, careless and selfish person. I doubt she would make a very good mother.
Also, I feel sad about your own birth history. I don't think your father should have told you that. If a person chooses not to have an abortion, they should stick to that decision and not make the child pay for their own misgivings about it.
I was born in between 2 abortions. My mother ended up a "born-again" Nazi pro-lifer, and made me picket at abortion clinics on weekends. She was a pretty terrible mother overall, and I have thought many times that I wished she had aborted me too.
You see, babies don't get to choose anything. But parents do. Every choice a parent makes is one they force on their child. I love kids, but I have met too many who wish they were dead because after they were born, their parents treated them like trash. That is no kind of life anyone deserves.
"Consistency is not a human trait" - Maude, from Harold and Maude
Nay 100% to abortion. It is never, in any circumstance, ok to destroy innocent human life.
RESPECT LIFE
http://progressiveu.org/blog/respectlife
-It is kind of long- feel free to skim read. I believe God cherishes life, but also values our fragility & over population concerns & special circumstances. I use birth control because my husband & I don't want more children right now, but if I was raped tomorrow & the guy didn't use a condom, my desire not to be pregnant again wouldn't change!
Parable of the Sweater Maker
Creation of Life from a Pro-Choice Christian
Psalm 139: 13-14
“13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
I am the knitter of the very finest in sweaters. People from around the world special order my sweaters because they know they will get a sweater that is beautiful and specially made. Some may even say my sweaters are “perfect” when I have handed them to the new owner. I think about how beautiful each sweater will be when I am knitting it. Much thought and love is put into each one.
One day, a father came to me and asked me to make his daughter a sweater. He paid the high price I asked without thought. He didn’t seem to even care about how important this sweater was & how much time & care his daughter would have to put into this special order. She would have to come in often for fittings & to be measured & I would have to call her often getting details about when she would have the sweater, where she would keep it, how she would take care of it. These sweaters are to me one of the most important things in the world & it is vital that this sweater be well cared for so it may last & be beautiful for many years.
I took the order and began to make a gorgeous sweater that I was sure the daughter would adore, who wouldn’t? When I had finished a perfect, unblemished sleeve, I called the daughter to get specifics on when she would come in for a fitting & when the sweater would be finished. To my shock, she was really surprised her father had ordered her a sweater & didn’t seem too happy about the gift. She said she didn’t really want a sweater right now, didn’t think she would wear it, didn’t really have the time to take care of it, or even come in for the fittings & learn how to care for this great gift.
She apologized profusely for my inconvenience & told me that even though she didn’t want a sweater right now, ( especially a gift from her father who was not her favorite person currently) that she was aware of my wonderful talent & would feel eternally grateful if I would hold off on making her a sweater until she could really appreciate it & have the time to take care of it to keep it beautiful & respected by all who saw it.
I was a bit disappointed at first, I had great plans when I started the sweater, but I also respected the girl’s honesty about her life and what she could handle. My sweaters were not after all without cost & certainly not carefree! I knew that someday she would be ready for a beautiful sweater & when she was ready, I would knit her one that she would praise me for the rest of her life.
My sweaters after all are gifts that will be with the receiver for a lifetime, but they are also gifts that the receiver should be ready for with open arms & an open heart. There are many circumstances when the receiver just shouldn’t receive the sweater I made. Sometimes they can give them away to another caring owner which I’m very glad about, but other times they are allergic to the wool & having the sweater would really be risky for their health. Sometimes the receivers are still growing & it is difficult to make a sweater to fit a teen who really isn’t ready for the responsibility that comes with such a fine & expensive sweater. The worst is when the receiver is an addict of some sort & can’t even take care of themselves, how could they ever take care of one of my precious sweaters? They would probably miss appointments & fittings & then the sweater might turn out to be too short, too long, too wide, or too narrow. I don't like to see that happen!
Then, other times, like in this story, someone orders the sweater without the receiver having asked for it, or even wanting it. I’d much rather a sweater be loved & wanted, that is why I make them, to be loved & cared for & appreciated. I spend a lot of time & thought creating these sweaters, so their outcome & care are vitally important to me. They are the most beautiful creations in the world, so I give people the choice of if and when they receive this perfect gift. I hope they’ll make the right choice for themselves & my perfect creations!
- by a faithful pro-choice Christian & mother (caring owner of 2 perfect “sweaters”)
I love how I could make the connection between this lovely little parable and your views on abortion with a fried brain. That was a very creative way to present it. I kinda think you should've made it a blog of its own, as it was presented the way it was. It made me smile.
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
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I believe that some women do not believe that abortion is a choice for them, but they do not want the choice to be legally taken from any woman. Regardless of my own views about abortion, women are afraid that if you eliminate the legality of abortion, than any woman with a life threatening illness will have the choice made for her, if she has to carry a baby to full term, even it means her own life.
Yes, you do have some women of many different ages like your friend that may use abortion as a tool of leverage with men, a form of birth control, a weapon of power, or any other reason that satisfies and justifies her use for an abortion.
However, we do have many women who face rape, incest, and the pressures of sexual behavior that leads to pregnancy and feel that they must have an abortion as a result of a physical violation or pressured behavior that they wish they could take back.
I do not want to place judgment on any woman that has to have the decision made for her by her parents, caregivers, or guardians, her boyfriend, her husband, or by her own mind to have an abortion because of any number of circumstances that may lead to this end result.
What decision I may make should not be a judgment on what decision she makes because I do not know the circumstances of her situation. He who has no sin, cast the first stone. I do not want to be that person casting a stone. None of us as human beings are perfect in what we say or what we do.
Im sorry to hear that your situation leads you to feel that sometimes you wish your mother had aborted you. Im glad that God has blessed you to be here because he has a purpose for your life and you have a reason to be in this moment and to be greater than your mind can imagine. You sound like a young woman with a beautiful soul.
Abortion is one of those sticky political subjects.
A lot of people base their views on it due to their religious orientation...but on some level does'nt that violate the speration of church and state?
And than theres the question of whether or not the government can tell you what to do to your own body.
And even if Roe vs Wade was overturned and abortions were declared illegal...do you really think women would STOP having abortions?
I mean all legalized abortions really do is provide a safe way for women to have operations performed.
Personally if I got a girl knocked up, I'd urge her to keep it and raise it myself. I urge pregnant women who want abortions to consider having the child and then giving it up for adoption. But thats just me.
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