I've babysat for many families, and like you probley already know, each family is totally different. Some are cleaner than others, some are stricter than others, and all the children in each family are TOTALLY different. I am just wondering why, some parents never disipline their children. I try my best to keep the kids safe, however, let them have all them fun possible but it's hard when everyday I have to tell them to clean up, fight with them to get they're homework done and so much more. The mother likes that a make her children listen to me and she admires it for me, but it hard when she basically lets them do what they want.
i try and teach responisbility, like do your chores, take a bath, BRUSH YOUR TEETH!!!, do your homework and so much more....and the kids will listen until their mom comes home, when they completly turn and get wild.
Don't get me wrong, I love to have fun, but I cant stand a dirty house, so I always make them clean up before we do anything....and by the time they clean up and they get their homework done, it's time for me to leave. I feel bad because i always make them clean up but i am trying to make them realize it's so much nicer living in a clean enviornment. I am trying to get them to realize if everything is done by the time I get to the house (bc they get out of school before I get off work) that we could have fun. I understand if they havent dont their homework because they need help on a work sheet or .
I guess i am just asking for help and wondering why parents dont make their children listen now a days. I asked the lady I babysit for and she said she is scared to because she's scared what it may do to them. Where does theat put me at? I cant stand a child not listening but it dosent help me waisting my breath when it's only for like 3 hours a day.
I totally understand what you mean. Same here. I babysit and I ensure that the children engage in fun activities. I also make sure that a neat environment is available to ensure safety and space. I make sure I state each reason why I make them clean a certain space, or reword specific phrases, simply becuase it's just the proper way to do things. It's a fiery shame that their parent's don't install such training system in their lives. The children obeys me more than their own parents, simply becuase I explain, demand, and comprimise. I believe that more parents should learn this system. It's promising, and very beneficial.
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If they don't behave or keep neat and tidy when you're not there, why should you try so hard? The kids will learn from their parents far more than they will from you. It sounds like you are creating a lot of work for yourself.
You can't change people, and even if they might comply while you're there, once you leave they go right back to what they're used to.
I bet if you stop trying so hard, you'll have more fun.
If you can't let it go, then get creative, try to make things like cleaning up fun. Think like Mary Poppins. If they have fun with you then they are more likely to repeat the behavior when you're not there, and you'll actually have taught them something.
"Consistency is not a human trait" - Maude, from Harold and Maude
Oh I have a sister in law that is like that. She completely ignores then and when we start looking at the mess then she yells from her chair for them to clean up, over an hour later it was still not done and more yelling insued. I took matters into my own hands since my boy was involved. We ended up having a 'put it away' race... they were shouting with joy tossing toys into bins running around like mad... the entire disaster put away clean in ten minutes flat. They even asked if we could clean up again tomorow... Kids are awesome!
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There is something about putting things in containers and taking them out again that kids love. We use this to our advantage.
Lately she loves to pull all of her toys out of the toy box and climb inside with a book and her lovie. We don't mind because she loves to play clean up, singing a song about "everybody clean up." I think she learned that at school.
"Consistency is not a human trait" - Maude, from Harold and Maude
I try my hardest to make fun. We listen to music and dance while cleaning up, we even stop and have dance contest sometimes. I am award that I make alot of work on myself, but I cant work in a -clean environment, especially a dirty kitchen when I have to cook in it. I am not a neat freak, but I like to know the dishes i am using are clean. Then, I am already picky about bathrooms, so there is no way I am going to sit in a house all day after work and hold my pee because the bathroom is dirty. The mother realizes that the kids listen to me more than they listen to her and she told me she feels bad because I am eighteen and I can do a better job than her. i dont know why i have motherly instincts, because I dont want kids of my own but it comes natural to me. The mother if the children dosen't know how to fix her children's hair that well, so i fix hair, get clothes out and everything else. I am not saying the mother is a bad mother, she just gives in to easily and to scared of her own children. She dosen't want to waist her breath arguing with them, so she will end up doing all the chores for them and giving into them. Which is why they never listen and everytimes she says she will punish them, it goes in one ear and out the other. My mother use to be the same way, so i know exactly how they think, but I never acted like them. Any advice?