For all of you out there who don't see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind

Sex has always been part of my life. Now a days its part of every young persons life. It wasn't until very recently that being a virgin even mattered to me. I'm nineteen and I want to say to all of you out there being a virgin is not a bad thing. There are so many things out there today that can change your life forever. STDs like HIV/AIDS are running rampant in people under the age of twenty five and in many ethnic communities. Is it really worth the moment of pleasure. I dont think so. So when you're thinking about having sex with him( fellas this is for you to. It's just easier to address it to females. Stay away from the grimy bitches!) think about it from this standpoint are you prepared to handle all of the results that may come from this. For example if you get pregnant is he going to stick around, are you ready to be a mother, are you willing to support her and be there for her when she and your unborn child need you, are you really ready to be a father, do you even really understand what it truly means to be a parent. Another thing to consider is if you really care about this person, as far as I'm concerned there is too much at risk for me or anyone else to just be willing to give it on the first thing that comes smoking through town. Do you really trust this person, do you really know them and if the answer to these questions is yes ask them to get tested with you. Even if you know you don't have anything go with them to show them how committed you are to your relationship. If they say no you know where there loyalties really are. No one who truly loves and cares about you and themselves would say no. Ask yourself do we have protection and if not can we get some. Condoms are so readily available in today's world it would be foolish for you not to use one. They're around for a reason and until they prove otherwise I'm not ever going to have sex without one! If you need to ask yourself why you think you're really willing to do it. If you want to have sex with someone just to keep them or to show them how much you care about them DON' DO IT. You should not have sex before you have decided that this is what YOU want separate of anyone else. You know you're ready and you care about this person just that much. Lastly the only one hundred percent way to know that you wont contract an STD or become pregnant/ impregnate some is abstinence. Its not uncool NOT to have sex if you don't want to .

I know I may sound like a broken record to many of you who read this but to be perfectly with all the new cases of HIV/AIDS in this country the point is not being taken to heart. You have this one life to live and you can end it forever in just one second by making one Bad life choice. Sex is not something to take lightly just because you feel like you know all about it. Evaluate the situation before you jump head first into anything. It is ok to be selfish in things like this. It may seem like I'm being a hater when I say if they really love and care about you, they'll understand but I'm not. I understand what its like to love someone and just want to make them happy and give them the best of you but if the RELATIONSHIP is as good as you think it is, they feel the same way about you. Think about it folks.