Is losing your virginity dependent on your religious followings? Or, Is it dependent on love?
My mom, being raised by very strict parents from an early age was taught to value her virginity because that was what her reputation depended most on. As a child she religiously attended many church and christian based activities. All she was exposed to was church and school and as result the teachings of her religious leaders (priests, deacons etc.) led her to believe that her virginity should only be lost to someone she married. The value she gave sex depended most on what she was taught and not what she herself truthfully believed made logical sense. In the end my mother gave her virginity to the man she married because from what her teachings said that was the right thing to do. This caused me to ask myself, is it wrong if I give my virginity up to someone I love before marriage? And before posting this blog it hit me! Marriage is only the signing of a legal document that says that your wife has rights to your things just as you do to hers. Marriage doesn't mean you love someone, and losing your virginity truly depends on love.
How do you decide when is the right time to lose your virginity?
By Jyavet18 - Posted on October 3rd, 2008
Tagged: personal
• Personal freedom
I believe you may have missed what the notion of marriage is. Marriage was never based on some ridiculous papers that give you a tax break. Marriage was at one point a symbol of love and COMMITTMENT, but by the way you wrote this blog I can tell that you probably have met some people in your life who have gone through a rough divorce and I dont blame you for your views on marriage, the media makes marriage out on TV to be some kind of fad that people can jump in and out of with a divorce. This has really destroyed the sanctity of marriage.
One thing you should realize is that you don't just want to give your virginity to someone you love, but someone your sure who also loves you UNCONDITIONALLY, and if your both in love with each other why not get married?
Anyway, I hope that everything turns out alright for you. have a good night
In which case, a very strong, very serious relationship is hardly any different from marriage, except for that little piece of paper that says you're married.
~C
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Marriage was at one point a symbol of love and COMMITTMENT
Actually, way back in the day, marriage was a way to ensure paternity and subsequently create a legal means by which to pass down property to one's sons. It didn't have much to do with love. Especially since most of them were arranged, or the chick's were purchased. Marriage only became a product or romance fairly recently.
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I wouldn't go as far to say that Marriage is just the signing of a document. After all, there is a debate about protecting the insistution of Marriage as we know it. In the past, the joining of a man and woman was a special insistution, therefore, our defintion is going to be different than the previous generation.
I would die a virgin. I don't need a piece of paper to tell me that I want to spend my life with my partner and that I want to share intimate moments with her. And it appears I'll never get that paper anyway, so to me, this question of waiting till marriage is just silly.
I would say, if you aren't sure, you aren't ready. And I'm not talking about being sure you'll stay with the person with whom you have sex. I mean you should be sure that you are ready to deal with the emotions that come with sex, that you are sure you are ready to deal with mature, responsible, safe sex, and that you are prepared to deal with the potential ramifications of sex (disease, infection, pregnancy), even if you use a condom. No one else can answer that question for you.
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You mentioned that your mom's view of losing her virginity was that of what she was taught, but not that of what she thought was logically right. People usually think what they are taught is logically right. Especially if what they are being taught is being engraved in their head from so many people around them. Losing your virginity should be a personal choice, but it is true that others may have a great effect of your decision. The question is when is the right time and the wrong time to lose it? Many opinons come from the past of not until you're married, but if their was no past to look at, then what? Marriage is a symbol of committment , but it does not automatically mean love. MAny women are unhapppy even though they are married. Marriage in my eyes is in today's world is the outcome of the paractice put in from other relationships before. All of the lessons learned prior to marriage is put in so that it will be a lasting and successful relationship in the end. If the virginity is lost on the last relationship then no paractice is put in before. Not just practice on sex, but practice on what sex can arouse in a relationship such as feelings or change of views. These things have to be learned to cope with.
I'm basically a kid. I have no experience relating to this issue whatsoever. Some of my fellow classmates have lost their virginity at fourteen, whereas I have never had a romantic relationship of some sort. I have no idea whether some of my peers will regret this decision; some lead lives of complete promiscuity, while others turned to drugs and alcohol. Some are into both.
Nevertheless, I don't think that everyone who has sex at a young age will "turn out bad". That's something that scares teens into not having sex (although it tends to backfire in my high school at least). I don't know when I would make such a decision; I'm not mature enough.
I suppose we determine such decisions based on what life has exposed us to and what we choose to extract from it. But I'm just a kid, really, so please excuse my naievity =).
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on what she was taught and not what she herself truthfully believed made logical sense
Maybe what she was taught led her to believe something???
Our experiences and what we're taught are what make all of our beliefs. She believes in what she believes in... so what if it was because of her experiences and what she was taught?
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Procrastination isn't the problem, it's the solution. So procrastinate now, don't put it off. [Ellen Degeneres]
... when you no longer feel the need to ask this question. Until then, it probably isn't the right time.
Cheers,
DB
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