I think it's so sad how many teens are getting pregnant these days.
When I was in 8th grade, there was a girl in my grade who got pregnant. I mean, really! She was only FOURTEEN! That's too young to raise a baby! My god it's sad.
Why can't people just WAIT anymore? Is that so hard? Really! Whatever happened to ABSTINENCE and SAVING YOURSELF??? It's SO IDIOTIC that people this young are getting pregnant!
It always make me think: What would I do if I'd gotten pregnant at a young age? It would have ruined EVERYTHING for me! I'd have to drop out of school, I'd be seen as a slut, I probably wouldn't go to college... IF I kept the baby.
WOULD I keep the baby? I really don't know. I'm a Catholic, so I'm definately pro-life, and as such, I wouldn't get an abortion. Then again, I wouldn't want to give my baby up for adoption, either. But raising the baby myself while going to school and everything... that would be really tough. My mom would probably help me, but that's not the way a baby should be raised. It shouldn't be passed off for someone else to take care of.
Let's just say I'm glad I've never had to make any decisions like that. When I have a baby, I want it to be planned, not a mistake. I don't want to have any kids until after I'm out of college and I've got a good career and I'm married with a good house over my head.
It just really upsets me how so many teens in this day and age are making stupid decisions by having unprotected sex, leading to pregnancies, or worse, STDs. That's so disgusting. You really have to be careful who you become sexually intimate with. You never know who's been with who, and who got what from whom.
For these reasons, I have made an unbreakable vow to stay abstinent. It's the best choice. I don't want to taint my body with STDs or anything.
The only way this vow of abstinence can be broken is by rape, which is why I've also vowed not to go to parties with alcohol; and if I DO go to a party with alcohol, I won't make stupid choices.
Here are some ways to prevent rape when you're at a party. Stay smart.
1. DON'T DRINK!!!!! If you DO drink, know your limit, and don't exceed it. DO NOT leave your drink unattended; someone can slip a date rape drug into your drink without you knowing it. DO NOT drink from a cup that someone you don't trust gives to you. Avoid punch bowls; they could be laced with rohypnol, a date rape drug. It's better to just not drink at all.
2. Go with a friend and never leave that friend's side. Look out for your friend and make sure they don't exceed their own drinking limit. If their inhibitions are blurred due to drinking and they want to hook up with a guy, advise them not to do it. The situation could go quickly downhill if they decide they don't want to hook up after all, and they might not be able to stop it once it starts if they're intoxicated.
3. Carry mace with you just in case an assailant does come onto you and persists even after you tell them to stop. The mace should be a last resort though. Don't just spray some guy in the face for coming up to you to say hello or something. Not ALL guys are assailants.
Well I sincerely hope that people will actually read this post and take it into consideration, so that it may hopefully prevent someone from getting raped or pregnant. I hope it makes people think twice before they get into a sexual relationship with someone they hardly know.
Thanks for listening
Kaitlyn
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Most girls who have sex at a young age say they didn't actually want to, but were pressured/coerced into it. Don't be so judgemental.
The only way this vow of abstinence can be broken is by rape, which is why I've also vowed not to go to parties with alcohol; and if I DO go to a party with alcohol, I won't make stupid choices.
That's incredibly ignorant of you. It sounds like you're saying that girls only get raped at parties with alcohol, and it's because of their stupid choices.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I don't believe that a girl should give in to pressure. If a guy won't respect her wishes to save herself and he keeps pushing it, then he's not worth keeping. However, if it's a mutual thing where they both wanna have sex, that's a different story. I just think that girls shouldn't have sex JUST BECAUSE they're pressured into it, or because they're afraid their boyfriends will leave them if they don't. That's not a good reason to have sex, I mean COME ON!
If everyone believed the same thing, this site wouldn't exist, and there'd be nothing to debate about.
And also, I'm NOT saying that girls only get raped at parties with alcohol. However, it's much more likely for a girl to get raped if she goes to a party and gets intoxicated, correct? I understand that girls get raped in other places during other situations. That wasn't what the basis of my blog was about though.
And with the quote you pulled and copmmented about, I was speaking about MY OWN vow of abstinence and what I'M doing to make sure I stay abstinent. I'm not saying that I'm gonna automatically have sex as soon as I drink at a party, I'm just saying that NOT drinking and NOT going to parties help ME, PERSONALLY, to stay away from drinking and losing my inhibitions.
Sorry if I offended you, but you obviously are confused.
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” -Carl Jung
Next time, use the reply button so I know you're replying to my post.
I don't believe that a girl should give in to pressure. If a guy won't respect her wishes to save herself and he keeps pushing it, then he's not worth keeping. However, if it's a mutual thing where they both wanna have sex, that's a different story. I just think that girls shouldn't have sex JUST BECAUSE they're pressured into it, or because they're afraid their boyfriends will leave them if they don't. That's not a good reason to have sex, I mean COME ON!
Where did I claim that's a good reason to have sex? Of course it's not. However, you are callously judging girls who were put in very difficult situations and did not want to have sex. How about you start judging the guys who pressured them into it? How about you stop assuming you know what it feels like to be pressured or coerced or to be terrified of being alone?
And also, I'm NOT saying that girls only get raped at parties with alcohol. However, it's much more likely for a girl to get raped if she goes to a party and gets intoxicated, correct? I understand that girls get raped in other places during other situations. That wasn't what the basis of my blog was about though.
You said that the only way your vow would be broken is by RAPE. You said nothing about losing your inhibitions because you drink alcohol. You said that not going to parties and not making "stupid choices" would PREVENT you from being RAPED. Er, no. Girls don't get raped because they choose to drink or do something "stupid". And you're far more likely to get raped by someone you know than some drunk stranger.
I've already spoken my piece, and you're still not getting what I was trying to say. I'm done trying to explain my views to someone I don't even know.
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” -Carl Jung
Peer pressure is not exactly acceptable but it is inevitable. These young girls are pressured into things in a way that they themselves believe that is what they want.
And by the way, alcohol does not have to do with rape, the people in your envorinment have to do with it. I really believe that you are being judgemental.
Après la pluie le beau temps. ♥
let me make this absolutely clear, because apparently, people still aren't hearing me.
I KNOW THAT ALCOHOL HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH RAPE! I KNOW THAT A PERSON CAN'T HELP IT IF THEY'VE BEEN RAPED!
HOWEVER! I believe that alcohol and being intoxicated can hinder your judgement.
FOR EXAMPLE, let's say you're at a party and you meet this hot guy and you have a few too many drinks. You get all horny and worked up. Then at the last minute, you decide to back out, but the guy doesn't want to, so he used force. You're too drunk to fight back.
THAT is what I was trying to say. THEREFORE, HAVING SAID THAT, wouldn't you agree that it's best NOT TO DRINK at parties?
I didn't mean to make this about rape, I meant to make this about making GOOD, SAFE CHOICES at parties and cutting your chances of the RISK of POSSIBLY getting into an unwanted situation.
THAT is what I've been trying to say! Damn, people! Back up! I'm not trying to be judgemental! My god! You guys are all ganging up on me without REALLY knowing what I'm trying to say! Hell!
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” -Carl Jung
I do not believe we are ganging up on you. It was bound to get responses that aren't complementary to yours. There's no need to get so worked up about this. I was just confused as to what you meant when you brought up rape and alcohol. I don't need to you to type in bold or in CAPS to have some clarification. Try to chill.
Après la pluie le beau temps. ♥
I'm with Krisan. It's ridiculous for you to get so upset.
let me make this absolutely clear, because apparently, people still aren't hearing me.
For one thing, obviously you didn't make it clear if so many people misunderstood.
I didn't mean to make this about rape, I meant to make this about making GOOD, SAFE CHOICES at parties and cutting your chances of the RISK of POSSIBLY getting into an unwanted situation.
You're going to learn very quickly that on this site, if something hits someone the wrong way, they're going to respond to it, whether it was the "main point" or not.
I thought your post alluded to the fact that a majority of rapes happen to girls who make bad choices at parties. Other people inferred this as well. Maybe these critiques can help you make your point more clear next time. Maybe you can take them for what they are instead of getting so defensive and bitching at people.
THAT is what I've been trying to say! Damn, people! Back up! I'm not trying to be judgemental! My god! You guys are all ganging up on me without REALLY knowing what I'm trying to say! Hell!
Comments like this are only going to make people more annoyed. Really. I had no desire to comment until I read this. If you're trying to make people "back up," then you probably shouldn't yell about people "ganging up on you! Hell!"
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You are the Voice of the Childwen of the Revowution! [Toulouse, Moulin Rouge]
Thank you. :]
Après la pluie le beau temps. ♥
Just a strange question...
If you are Catholic, then you shouldn't engage in premarital sex anyway. So isn't it a little hypocritical of Catholics (or Christians, really) who get pregnant before marriage, and then say, "No, I won't have an abortion because it's against my beliefs even though I am incapable of raising this child without the tax dollars of others anyway?"
If you're going to *believe* in a religion, then you can't pick and choose what's convenient for you.
I AM Catholic. I HAVEN'T engaged in premarital sex, nor do I believe it's okay to engage in premarital sex.
I feel like I'm being personally attacked here! Surely I'M not the ONLY ONE who's posted a controversial blog on here. My god.
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” -Carl Jung
Oh no, sorry about the rhetoric. Sometimes using "you" doesn't mean directly the blogger; this was not the case in my comment. I just meant Catholics in general.
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Again, you could have responded with an answer instead of getting so defensive.
Either you're trying to make arguments or you just don't know how to deter them. Either way, comments like this only feed the flame.
EKM was not attacking you at all.
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You are the Voice of the Childwen of the Revowution! [Toulouse, Moulin Rouge]
I have to admit, there are points in both your entry and the comments posted before mine that I agree and disagree with. & because of that, I won't get into the rape discussion.
That aside, however, there were a few places that had me nodding my head in agreement. I know it isn't always possible to remain true to an abstinence promise, especially if emotion and love are factored into the equation, but I have to give kudos to those that do hold true to their morals.
Personally, I really don't think the whole premarital sex thing is such a big deal.. everyone has their own "sin," as one might say, and also the ability to make personal choices for their own sake. If one chooses to have sex in high school or college, or before marriage in general, that's not anyone else's business but their own. But I do have to agree.. if a girl or guy makes the decision, both should be responsible for keeping it safe if pregnancy isn't a viable option. And I really think that before engaging in the act the two people involved should take time to consider just what it means to have sex. If you're not ready for the consequences, and are unwilling to prevent them, then you shouldn't be having sex in the first place. I do realize mistakes happen, but I agree: most girls [or guys, for that matter] in high school aren't ready for those mistakes. In my hometown, there are dozens of girls through the past three years that have had children, even in the middle school as young as sixth grade. This also coincides with a rather large meth problem at the middle school level.
Ick. Sorry for the overly long comment. Thanks for sharing, though. =]
hey man, you have no reason to apologize. You didn't tear me down and rip me to shreds. It's all good.
I personally don't believe in premarital sex. I wouldn't do it unless I were AT LEAST engaged to someone. Even then, I dunno.
But I agree with what you said here:
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” -Carl Jung
I am still waiting for the response to my post...
I've already said what I wanted to say. I have nothing more to say to you.
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” -Carl Jung