It is not so much of a new phenomenon. Yet, I am not so sure if people, parents in particular, have noticed this trend among the parental population in America. The (new) trend among parents is obviously to attempt to find some sort of common ground with their children so as not to cause friction between the parent-child relationship(which, in itself, is not a bad thing). The most recognizeable way in which parents attempt to do this is in music and fashion. I have, so far, had the pleasure of staying at the house of two of my acquaintances over a long enough period to analyze this theory. This post is aimed at the parents in our society, who, in order to "understand" their children, will conform to the popular culture "mom" and "dad" norm. This is especially true at the middle and highschool ages of their children. So, in order to be a "good parent" or simply to "get along" with their kids, a lot of parents will stray from and are apprehensive about judging their child's interests; even if (they feel) their interests(or peer pressure from the stereotypicals norms of their interests) are a major cause for concern for the wellbeing of their child(ren). A lot of parents believe that if they can show that they can be like their children, have the same interest and such, they can avoid those huge problems that arise between their children (usually) because of those same interest or peer pressure from the interests of their child's friends. A prime example of this is how a lot of friction seems to arise between mothers and daughters at the teen ages(if not younger) because of the daughter's choices(not that i'm saying it's every girl, hence the word "choice") in areas such as (scantily-clad) clothes and (innappropriate) music. Have you noticed this trend among parents? If so, explain. Do you believe that a young child's/teen's behavoir because of their interest should simply be ignored in order to be a happy/"happy" family? This same trend goes for a number of influences that can and might influence children in their growing years. However, instead of simply slandering children and parents, I want to bring up key issues of parenting.
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I have seen every style of family fail the children and break apart. Some kids are built to get along with parents, and some are built to hate them, no matter what. Parents need to be parents, have a sense of scale and make sure their kids don't die. Esp. if you have more than one child you aren't going to be able to find common ground with all of them. I have come to the conclusion that families are roulette wheels and either your number comes and kids and parents get along and turn out good, or it doesn't come up and kids have lots of fights.
You don't appreciate your parents until you leave the house anyway. Fights will happen no matter what.
Res ipsa loquitur.
memor mori, mahalo.
"Some kids are built to get along with their parents, some are built to hate them".(One question I could throw out is, "But how are they "built" this way? They didn't just pop out of the womb that way.") Ooh, I highly diagree with this.
More coming soon. Now it's sleepy time. Really?:)
I fear no man(Nazgul)...i'm no man(Eowyn) -LoTR
Res ipsa loquitur.
memor mori, mahalo.