Sex. Yeah, I Said It. part 2
It's absurd how unapproachable parents are.
So I mentioned in the previous blog that I am, in fact, not single.
Well, right before my boyfriend and I started dating (or right after), I tried to approach my dad about sex.
Yeah, there aren't too many teen girls who would try to initiate a sex conversation with their dad. It seems even *more* absurd when you take into account that I am the baby of the family.
Oh yeah, I'm surprised I even got a reaction out of my dad. Want to know what it was?
"Come talk to me after you talk to your aunt."
What the heck?!
I've already gotten "the talk" 50 bajillion times (exaggeration, obviously) from my aunts. You know, the usual: where babies come from, my body, sex, all that.
I would love to know when many parents became so closed off, that sex became such a taboo subject, that they became so uncomfortable that they didn't want their kids to know about the challenges they will likely face in life.
My dad always says that he "doesn't want any crap out of me," but when I confront him about what he means I get absolutely no specifics out of him.
It seems like the standards of my culture, of my religion... hold my dad back from teaching me the stuff that I need to know.
I mean, I've done my research and all, but still!
It's like he can't trust me and any decisions that I may make in the coming year(s), and that he thinks I fit into the stereotype of the sex-crazed teenager (and that "all young men are dogs," but we won't get into that! haha, funny. not.)
Yeah, I get all of my facts from statistics, reading, sex education, all that jazz...
But there are some things that you just need to hear from your parents.
It's great that your aunts at least gave you the sex talk. I personally never really got it (when I was little I got a book about how babies are made, but no one ever explained to me stuff like condoms, being safe, GLBT issues, or even stuff like consent and pressure and coercion) from anyone in my family, I just learned about it from the internet. Most parents actually don't give their kids the "sex talk", or at least... they give them a "sex talk" but they leave out many important details (like, everything except the utter, utter basics).
yeah, it pretty much was the basics. this is this and that is that. that's all it really was. there was nothing in-depth aside from the stuff that I'd been learning in school since 12st grade-ish. and honestly, they really just skirted away from sex and just talked about puberty...