Requirements of Love

Very true. ^^

I belive equality needs to be there too, I dont like it when people look at me less human for what I belive in.

I would argue that only attraction and commitment are necessary for love, and you need to have spent a considerable amout of time together. I don't think there is anything wrong with meeting on the internet, but I think meeting in person needs to happen before you solidify your feelings.

Similar backgrounds and interests aren't always important if the tension created by your differences is part of your love. In fact the male/female counterpart to yourself is quite often wholly unattractive. How many times do you see rockstars dating other rockstars? Not too often, and it usually ends badly.

Similar social standing and situations just contribute to you meeting someone. A gutter punk isn't going to meet a gated community baby (probably).

I will buy that simlilar values are important, but once again a little tension, or at least tolerance, can strengthen a relationship.

This whole idea that people should be similar to be in love is spurred on by internet dating sites that fit you with people through compatability. This basically means they match you with people who checked the same boxes as you. I haven't tried this, but my dad did way back in the day and he said it was really boring because the people you found were just like you. There was nothing to talk about.

To me dynamic tension is far, far more important than agreeing on everything and liking the same stuff.

Res ipsa loquitur.
Memento mori, mahalo.

I agree with all except similar social/values. My boyfriend and I have many differing opinions, and I just love him more for it. His family is a lot different from mine, and we don't share some of the same values.

I would have to disagree with you on several points. Love can't be limited, because its a ideal and perhaps your love doesn't fit all the above, but love can still exist because for a moment, nothing else mattered except the person, being, essence before you.

And what of courtly love? It was not based upon physical attraction or sexual attraction for that matter, but it was based on civil manners of the time and treating ladies with a sense of respect and honor.

Attraction doesn't necessarily make love. Sure, it helps a lot to get things started, but what about arranged marriages. Sure they were't attracted to each other in the beginning but as time went on, things got better or they just learned to get along, hence some form of love.

Similarities dont necessarily mean love. In fact, i would have to say that differences make love so much stronger. I wouldn't fall in love with some one just like me. Its quite the opposite. Opposites attract, so the person who makes my heart go, is someone who complements me. Someone who is great in the things I have no talnet in and is just someone who has their own ideas and opinion. true, we have to have some common ground to meet and get started, but we cannot be the same person. its bad enough with just one me!

and commitment is not just a requirement of love, its a requirement of all things. it takes two to tango and it takes two to make a relationship work. love is a game of give and take. it isn't about me, but its about us.

personally, the word love doesn't mean anything. it gets thrown around way too much, especially during commercialism season of valentines day. love is just a word. I want action, not words. the people I love have my trust. not only do they have my trust, but they have my memories too. because love is more than just lust. its about being there when people need you most or just being happy in another's presence. love is something that is ever changing. my love is never the same. so dont limit love, because by limiting it you define it and you change its real meaning.

If you believe, you can achieve.

Does love has a requirement? I thought love is a spontaneous feeling and it doesn't requires anything, imo.

-Jan
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