Has a friend ever told you a secret that could be deadly? There are the secrets that my friends have told me, "I like insert name. Don't tell anyone. I would die!" But these aren't the secrets I'm talking about. It's the secrets such as, "I tried to kill myself last night on a drud overdose." Or "I'm bullemic. I don't want to be; just don't tell anyone." These are the secrets that you're confused about. Do you keep them and hope for the best; that one day your friend will kick her eating disorder and be normal again? Or do you tell an adult and get everyone involved?
I was in ninth grade when my friend confronted me about killing herself. Of course I wouldn't tell anyone; I wanted to help her and so I told her how I'd be so upset if she went through with it. After talking and spending a lot of time with her, she seemed to improve her mood and I knew things would be back to normal.
In tenth grade, my friend got a new job and started hanging out with kids that smoked, drank, and did drugs. She would say she was having fun, but I couldn't see how sneaking around and lying to her family was fun. She stopped talking to me, since she knew I didn't approve of her new change. I didn't realize how serious things were getting until the middle of the year. On a school trip she told me what was really going on. She told me that she was bullemic. I blew up at her. "Do you know what could happen to you! You could die! I don't want you to die! What can I do to make you stop?!" She said had only been battling it for a few weeks now, but that she needed my help. "Please, don't tell anyone," she said. "Just follow me after I eat and make sure that I don't throw up." Since I knew the consequences, I followed her. About a week or two after the trip, she called me to tell me that she had finally stopped.
Not every story like this has a happy ending; be there for your friends when they really need you.
A Secret That Could Kill
By pkubik08 - Posted on March 17th, 2008
What can make helping your friends through something like that more difficult is if they won't tell you what's going on.
I'm really worried about my best friend. I know that something is going on, but I don't know what. People have come to me with their different suspicions...that she's being abused by her mother, she might be bulemic, etcetera...and I want to figure out what's going on so I can help. I already know she's battle bulemia at one point, and I'm worried she's fallen back into it.
But the only thing I can do is wait for her to tell me what's going on. It's frustrating beyond belief, but if I approached her about it, as another friend did, she's feel like she was being accused and wouldn't open up to me in the end. I just hope that I can manage to pull a happy ending out of this.
yeah that's definitely a tough place to be in...but I can tell you from being on both ends of it...tell someone...I had a friend that was cutting and doing drugs...I didn't say anything and they ended up dead...not to say it was my fault but I can't help thinking "if only I would've told someone." and I know that last year when I was doing...well...kinda the same thing...my best friend of two years went behind my back to tell my dad...I was crushed when I found out he'd betrayed me like that...and for a while there after my life was essentially hell...and while we aren't really friends anymore I respect him for what he did b/c my life is so much better now and I realize how important getting that help was...so even though someone may hate your guts for telling I recommend it every time in a serious situation.