have you ever watched one of or ur only best friend go down hill?
i have a good friend who recently has just fallen a part..... she was with a guy for who she was in love with for 8 months... and he just broke up with her.... kinda out of the blue. She started to notice him talking to other girls so she decided to try and get over him quicker as well. however.. she did so by hooking up with her old crush who was a player and drunk... bc she thought it would help.. but it didnt...
the next weekend she made out while wasted at a party with two different guys... and she says she hates herself for it.
she is very smart, very pretty, and this just is not like her, but all i can do is talk to her and tell her what to try and do bc i don't live where she does ne more....
is there something else u can do to help a friend in need rather than just talking to them? or is talking as far as u r supposed to go?
have any of u ever been in the same position?
If your friend is in serious trouble, you can suggest that she sees someone professional to help her. There's no shame in seeing a counselor. Especially if she's a student, she may be able to get free counseling at her school.
I think everyone goes through rough spots in our lives when we may do things we regret, like your friend.
Continue to support your friend, and encourage her to get more help if she needs it. Hopefully this is just a little speed bump in her life, and she'll be fine soon.
Try checking her into a mental hospital. She will come out all calm and lovely and drugged, and everything will be all good again. Or you could tell her straight up, no "hint dropping" or anything, that she is totally overreacting to a common situation, and that she should grow up.
Seeking professional help is really bad in a situation like this, it makes the weakness to become even a bigger problem.
You hit the wall, cry, be hurt, evaluate it, stand back up, get over it, continue your life, become stronger, love yourself, open up again, fall in love, hit the wall, cry, be hurt, evaluate it, stand back up, get over it, continue your life, become stronger, love yourself, open up again, fall in love, hit the wall, cry, be hurt, evaluate it, stand back up, get over it, continue your life, become stronger, love yourself, open up again, fall in love, hit the wall, cry, be hurt, evaluate it, stand back up, get over it, continue your life, become stronger, love yourself, open up again, fall in love, hit the wall, cry, be hurt, evaluate it, stand back up, get over it, continue your life, become stronger, love yourself, open up again, fall in love,
Love is great!!!
It is not all that easy to create balance in another.
There are some important reason for this, people which suffer from emotional trauma find themselves inside a whirlpool of emotions they don’t control because of the hurt which suddenly entered their lives.
Consider it to be a balloon that has popped which has made them to have lost their personal believes.
They are actually lost in confusion, their sense of personal identity and self esteem has taken such a blow making them to linger inside extremes which causes them to wonder inside a viscous circle.
Not having a clue of the why, their personal reality can’t cope with the hurt this trauma is accompanied with. To escape from this reality they simply act in stupid ways, driven by emotions of excess.
Most become to act in destructive ways which of course is self-inflicted making things even worse, like they are caught inside a spiral which brings them even more misery.
The only thing which will bring change into a situation like that is a moment of “self-reflection”.
Sadly enough, this is mostly a moment which one would not like to remember for the rest of its life…lol
Your friend need’s to wake up!
There are two ways to wake up…she can go on in her “self-pity” destructive mode until one fine day she finds herself waking up with a huge hangover, in her own bed while lying naked next to a 60 year old amazingly fat and smelly taxi driver who whispers, I loved the anal part last night!
Or she can skip this part and try to figure out why she is allowing self-pity to affect her self-esteem!
The main problem your friend is dealing with, is the fact that she doesn’t love herself, she will pretend and assume that she does, but the truth is that she doesn’t, this is also and probably the reason why she got dumped in the first place!
She is actually still a kid who believes the world is turning around her, she loves to be loved but doesn’t bring up any for herself.
The lack of self-love make’s her to be in constant need of attention, attention she received from her boyfriend made her to become an emotional addict of attention.
He got fed up with it and pushed her away making her whole world to fall apart.
To bring her some self-reflection will only work and be effective if you piss her off!
The only way to do this is to tell her the truth right in her face, she will for some time hate you for that, because it will make her feel humiliated.
Why would anyone want to be with someone which doesn’t love itself?
If someone sheet’s on you, be happy you know, deal with it, and get over it!
Attachment to someone is fine, but when it becomes an addiction, trouble is never far away.
If she start to vent frustration upon you, that’s fine, later she will understand what an amazing friend you truly are.
Other than that, you can maybe write down a profile of who she is, and I can write down a cure to make her feel better…lol
Good luck, sorry for the anal part,,,
haha.
But don't show pity. It's a mean thing to say, but she probably wants attention. Maybe she "needs" attention. So listen to her, and then tell her she's an idiot.
The reason why I bought it up is to bring an understanding, that she will remain in showing destructive behavior as long as she is not “shaken” back to reality.
She is actually living in denial and unwilling to accept the fact he turned away from her!
To swallow a bitter pill like that can be difficult depending on how addicted she is in regard to receiving attention.
The fact she hooked up with her ex is one mayor mistake and a clear prove there is seriously something wrong with her self-esteem.
To degrade herself is a typical drama queen response which she needs to quit as soon as possible!
She might start to enjoy others to freely abuse from her, while adapt to act accordingly not believing any better to come her way. If not she will infect herself with a shame which will only be bearable when lingering in a state of arousal.
Whether it’s drugs, alcohol or ice cream…. she will start to rely and abuse of it, making her to become subjected to the effects of abuse. This goes from suffering sexual horrors to the self creation of the city’s fattest ass, when ice cream is consumed with chocolate flavor.
Tell her to watch the movie “Dirty Love”
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/305729/dirty_love/
Yeah, tell her she is a BIG TIME idiot…
;-)
People tend to freak out whenever they resort in doing stuff which doesn’t match their own set standards, personal set profile or personal whishes.
When they do “stuff” while lingering inside a mind state in which they are not clear in the head (drunk or drugged, emotionally hurt) the realization of what they did afterwards can make them to be overwhelmed with an instant fear so strong they WAKE UP out of that delusion they are suffering.
The tricky part is when an emotion of enjoyment accompanies this fear which overwhelms them,
Then, they are in trouble, and filled with weird emotion!
:-B