ok so i know how this sounds but trust me its true.
when my mom and dad got married and she got preggers with me, my dad up and left with all our money and everything.
>then he went and robbed a bank (no lie) wiht his friends, and went and bought Harleys, all in my moms name. then they went down to florida and were in "hiding" for a while.
anyways long story short he didnt get out of jail until i was 5 and at that point him and my mom were "ok" and my grandpa gave him a job and bought him a place to live etc.
he never paid child support never bottherd to see me ect.
longer story short i havent seen or heard from him in 18 years (i met him when i was 5 for like 2 min.)
well today im at the mall with my mom and my cell phone rings and i answer it not knowing that the bigget shock of my life was on the other end.
<his new wife> called me and said that he really wanted a relationship wiht me now that im old enough and more mature and blah blah blah.
>>shocked im like..uhh ok e-mail me?
i dont know what to do now.. i have a dad but part of me has always wanted to atleast meet my biological dad.
and at first i was like yea sweet im gonna meet this prick and give him a peice of my mind for what he did to me and my mom. but now..i think im going to let him suffer byh never getting to meet me in the first place...he'll live the rest of his life not knowing who is daughter is and what she became. knowing that its only his fault....i think thats better than a "yea your an ass how could you" speech.
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I'm not sure if you want advice from a complete stranger, but I would honestly try meeting your dad and his new wife, but think about the meeting as though you are just meeting a stranger for the first time, regardless of the whole DNA thing. Just act like your dad is just another person you meet on the street. Once you have gotten past the initial meeting, you can 'give him a piece of your mind' and let him know how you feel about the decisions he made in the past. If you read my blog, you'll notice that my family is kind of a mess, so I'm not sure if you want advice from me!
cliche is spelled this way, btw ftw
oh dear he doesnt deserve you. he is dirt and doesnt deserve to have a father-daughter relationship after all the crap he has pulled.
robbed a bank? New wife called you? Soap opera dad? Damn....hard call. Your mother must be a STRONG woman. You sound like a stronger person from all this too, whether you are confused or not.