I've never really thought about the possibility of not being able to have kids. I figured, I'm young, so I shouldn't have any problems. But then my Mom wanted to have another child, and has since miscarried three times in a year and a half. She has taken so many fertility drugs and hormones, and each attempt ends in failure. She is 41 years old, just at the cut off. In her forty one years, she has miscarried four times, with me and my sister being her only children.
A friend of mine from highschool also dreamed of being a mother one day, and she loved kids so much. She would have made the perfect mother, would have been a model for motherhood. But then she started noticing her period was irregular. After a visit to the doctor, she found out that she had a disorder that was the leading cause of infertility. And in one day, her dream was shattered. At seventeen years old, she was not able to have kids.
What do you do when all your plans for your future are demolished? I've always wanted to have a lot of kids, just not right now. But I have always taken my fertility for granted. (though I don't know how fertile I am because I've never tried to have kids) In my mind, the option of having children was always there. And then I, who doesn't plan my life around having kids, have not found one infertility problem with myself. But that's just how it works I guess.
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That is a tragedy. I will pray for your mom. I wish her healing and blessings.
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I struggle to comprehend people who take having kids for granted. One of my dearest friends had a daughter about 6 years ago. At birth, her daughter had one of the rarest forms of cancer. At that time, there were only about 10 documented cases of this particular cancer in babies. Although her daughter put up a valiant fight at the tender age of less than 6 months, she passed away 6 years ago this August. It is in the memory of the first baby I ever felt comfortable holding that I have great disdain for people that either take advantage of their fertility or care nothing for their children. My dear friend would give her own life to let her daughter grow up in this world of ours. Yet, there are people out there that think nothing of what a gift it is to be able to have children. Just like those that you know that have lost the ability to have children. Such sorrow the death of a child or the fact that a person cannot have children or going through miscarriage after miscarriage to feel that joy again.
I know you're right, and I feel so stupid for ever having thought otherwise. And I'm sorry about your friend's child. Six months isn't enough time.
I don't think that you should feel bad for not having children at this point and time in your life. Is that what you are implying?
I'm sorry if I mad you feel any sort of way. I was really trying to agree with you that some people take that for granted when there are folks out there that can't have children. But, I was more or less talking about people who have so many children they can't take care of them and are system dependent, or those that have children and don't realize what a gift their child is.
From what I gather, you realize the terrible situations that some people have to go through. That's the right thing to do and you learn from that, not feel bad about it. Smile. Your thought process is not incorrect, rather intelligent for being caring and concerned about those around you.
Oh no, I didn't mean that I felt bad for not having kids now, I meant I felt bad for having taken having kids for granted. I don' t really want kids right now, but I meant in the future. Thank you though!