Logic 4: Spank the hell out of your kids

Spare the rod, Spank your child. It takes less then ten seconds.

Logic 1: My parents spanked me

            … And I turned out fine. I only smoked pot during high school and I stole only three things from a local store. I never lied unless I had to and I was almost a virgin till I got married.

Logic 2: There is nothing wrong with it

            Spanking does not have any negative affects on children. Esteem and confidence and trust in parents are damaged by other circumstance not related to physical punishment.

Logic 3: The children need discipline

            The most effective way to teach a child respect and discipline is spanking and should be used by more parents and caretakers in this day and age.

Logic 4: It is only abuse if it bruises or breaks

            It has nothing to do with the reason behind the punishment, the age of the child, or the control of the parent.

An article on babycenter.com discussed the issue between spanking and not. Many professionals interviewed said that you should NEVER spank a child ad that there are other ways to teach and discipline a child that are just as effective. Others questioned say that during this day and age with so much crime and terribleness that parents need to get back to disciplining their children and spanking them because the other methods seem to not be working.

The leading child psychologist said that spanking can be constructive if handled responsibly. She said that in her study children responded better and remembered longer when the parent used a combination method. She goes on to state that spanking with discussion and explaining yielded better results then either alone or a grounding/ time-out method.

Child abuse rates

“Each year, tens of thousands of children are traumatized by physical, sexual, and emotional abusers or by caregivers who neglect them, making child abuse as common as it is shocking. The scars can be deep and long-lasting, affecting not just abused children but society.”

“Most recent year for which the U.S. government has figures, 12.1 of every 1,000 American children, almost 900,000 in all, suffered abuse by adults, with parents of victims accounting for almost 80 percent of the abusers. Every day, about four children die in the U.S. because of abuse” most of which are baby or toddlers.

Physical child abuse- Child physical abuse is the intentional infliction of injury on a child. In most cases, the person causing the abuse is a family member or caregiver.

“Physical child abuse is an adult’s physical act of aggression directed at a child that causes injury, even if the adult didn’t intend to injure the child. Such acts of aggression include striking a child with the hand, fist, or foot or with an object; burning the child with a hot object; shaking, pushing, or throwing a child; pinching or biting the child; pulling a child by the hair; cutting off a child’s air. Such acts of physical aggression account for between 15 and 20 percent of documented child abuse cases each year.

Many physically abusive parents and caregivers insist that their actions are simply forms of discipline, ways to make children learn to behave. But there’s a big difference between giving an unmanageable child a swat on the backside and twisting the child’s arm until it breaks. Physically abusive parents have issues of anger, excessive need for control, or immaturity that make them unable or unwilling to see their level of aggression as inappropriate.”

Most of parents never intend to hurt or ‘abuse’ their children. Often it is a misplaced sense of teaching that a parent has.

An abused child’s behavior may change, making the child withdrawn and distrustful, although most children will deny that anything is wrong.

You can not avoid it if you do not know what or how it happens.

Aside from Munchausen’s by proxy, “Physical abuse is caused by a person’s inability to control their anger or frustration. This loss of control is usually caused by factors that have nothing to do with the child, such as job or personal stresses, loneliness, depression, lack of a support system, psychiatric disorders, or substance abuse. A child that is difficult because of a behavioral disorder or physical disability may also be a target for abuse if the parent is not equipped to handle these types of challenges.”

            In order to be sure you are not striking out in anger use the ten second rule. That is between the incident and the punishments have ten seconds. That is why parents use to send their children to the room.

I am not against spanking children; I am against the ridiculous things people come up with for their kids with good intentions. Spanking a one year old for touching something and being to young to understand to me is crazy. This only teaches babies to react and act out instead of talking it out. Why stifle a child’s curiosity.

I cannot write this blog this makes me to mad! Be reasonable people.

http://www.hmc.psu.edu/childrens/healthinfo/pq/physicalabuse.htm

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_ne...

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