I will have to say from the start that I have never exactly had a boyfriend. But I have seen almost all of my friends having boyfriends and being completely screwed over by it. They fall for a guy, start dating him, and then something goes wrong and there is drama everywhere. It hurts their relationship, ends it, and then makes my friends so much less confident with themselves because they feel like they aren't good enough to be in a relationship. Then the whole process starts over again.
I have one friend in particular who does this a lot. She falls for a guy but he doesn't like her in return. He tells her that, and she is completely heartbroken. After a while, she is looking for someone new.
Shouldn't love be more spontaneous? It's not a shopping trip - looking for something you like and trying it on and either keeping it or not. (Bad example, I know . . .) But really, I don't understand how so many girls can do this. No offense to any of you out there who are like this - but to feel better about myself, I like to do things on my own. I don't need a boyfriend to make or keep me happy. Yes, having one would be nice. But I don't see the need for one at all times.
I just want to know how everyone else feels about this - I feel like I'm one of the only people who thinks the same way as me on this subject! I know I'm not, but I want to know why other people disagree with me too.
I'm like you. It could be something that you shouldn't knock before you try, but I wouldn't know. I've seen many girls go through that and have sometimes wondered if it was worth it.
You aren't the only one!
No, I'm the same way.
I've been close to a few girls but never formally had a girlfriend (I wish I had so I would be better equipped to agree or disagree.) I would like a girlfriend, that would be nice, but I'm not going to just go out with some random girl I've met once because people say she likes me.
"Asking someone out" even seems awkward. It should just be a progression I think. It should just happen. I don't need a girlfriend, and instead of going through many failed relationships, I'd rather just slowly start one that lasts.
Well, those are my thoughts. Good or bad.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/monsters (stop on by!)
At the price of seeming like I'm forwarding my own agenda, check out a recent blog post of mine. You might find a few answers as to why this kind of thing happens. It's a little complicated to put into a small comment, so I'll leave it up to you to check out the above post.
The one thing I will say is that the person you are most likely to end up dating is your oldest friend of whatever gender you're interested in. By the time you hook up, you've been friends for so long there's not much of a difference in how you treat each other.
-TC
(BTW, Monsters, from my own experience, the people you have to literally ask out are the people you don't want to date anyway. Cheers! :) )