Okay. So, the other day, a great friend posted a comment on Facebook. It said something to the effect of "you've been hit. You're one of the top 15 prettiest girls on my friends list. If you get hit again, you know you're really pretty. Pass it on".
Today I saw a bulletin a couple people posted. Titled, "honey, are you all right?", it was about the downfall of a girl....here:
Girl: I have to tell you something...
Boy: What?
Girl: I really like you. And I... I think I'm falling in love with you.
Boy: Ok...
Girl: What do you mean "ok"?
Boy: I don't like you like that...
Girl: Why not?
Boy: I can't tell you... maybe another time...
From then on, the girl kept asking the boy "Why not?" whenever she saw him, and he kept answering the same answer of "I'll tell you later." Finally the girl got fed up.
Girl: I'm tired of this! Tell me why you don't like me!
Boy: Do you really wanna know why?
Girl: Yes!
Boy: It's because you're ugly! What's the point of going out with someone when they're not pretty?!
Girl: But... I...
Boy: Just shut up and leave me alone!
The boy leaves and the girl is sitting there alone, crying her heart out. Then her cell phone rings.
Girl: Hello?
Mom: Sweetheart? I want you to go home, ok? I'll be home from work in a few hours.
Girl: Alright Mom.
Mom: I love you.
Girl: I love you too, Mom.
Mom: Bye Bye.
Girl: Bye
The girl heads home and once she got there, she went in the bathroom and looked at herself in the mirror.
Girl: I'm not pretty enough...
She set to work, knowing fully well what she was going to do. 2 hours later, her Mom came home and heard the bath water running. She went upstairs to find the hallway flooded so she knocked on the door.
Mom: Honey? Are you alright?
She opened the door and was shocked at the site. The bath was overflowing onto the floor, and the water was tinted red. She walked over to see what was inside and screamed. There, her little girl was lying with cuts all over her face and wrists. Her Mom backed away and was going to run to call the police when something caught her eye. On the mirror, am I pretty enough now?
No one deserves to be told that by someone they love. If you find it messed up then forward this to everyone you know.
A person's appearance doesn't count. What counts is their heart inside of them and their personality. No one wants to be told they're not good enough...
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And, okay. This has the classic, "if you dont repost this you're going to have a horrible life ra ra ra" tag on the end. So is this one of those that just gets around because of that crappy threat? At least it should make people think.
Because this IS a serious subject. Too many girls are not told that they're pretty. Some are told that they're pretty or beautiful all the time (and may not believe it). Some are told that they're hot and sexy...which is okay, but only sometimes.
I wish people would see the problem here. Oh yeah, there's all that media telling us we're not good enough, yadda yadda yadda. But don't you realize?! WE can help each OTHER!
We KNOW the media is full of crap, right?? So then why do you take it to heart? Is it the fact that it just penetrates your brain and becomes your thoughts automatically? Or is it that you don't get enough respect, no one actually sees you with their eyes open, no one tells you differently enough (and is sincere)?
Men can make women feel like crap. I know this from personal experience. And then in those times, we wonder "Am I not good enough??" And that's such a stupid question! It's hard NOT to wonder, when someone casts us aside or takes us for granted or DISRESPECTS us...But no matter what a guy says or does to you, no matter WHAT, you're gorgeous.
Yeah, yeah, we all have heard this SO many freaking thousands of times "it's what's on the inside that counts". But people see with their eyes wide shut nowadays. They look at how your body is, how pretty are you? They don't see the beauty that every woman has...yes, we get brownie points just for not having a penis.
We're not "bitches". We don't deserve to be looked at as just pieces of meat. We're all...well, precious. A lot of this may just sound corny, but it's true!
And okay, even though they get a bad rap sometimes, A lot of guys actually are okay. they're amazing pieces of god's work, too...But we, as mothers and sisters and just plain friends, need to show men how to treat women.
How are we going to do THAT?? We all know they're stupid and don't pay attention....but wait, are you SURE about that? They take in more than you think, let me tell you. They just act stupid :)
We need to show them by our actions. Okay classic quote moment! "Actions speak louder than words."....."A picture is worth a thousand words"....and from a Christian standpoint, "Preach the gospel, and, If necessary, Use words."
No more of this "bitchy" behavior...yeah, we get pissed at each other. But is it reeeaaally necessary to disrespect each other? No. of course not.
So...I guess. Long blog post. But, in conclusion, We are all worth it. We're all worthy of respect, EVEN if you've made mistakes. Trust me, you'll make plenty more! But that doesn't make you ANY less of a person.
I love this quote...
"We are the ones we've been waiting for!!!"
xoxo,
Ashley
(Note: this been previously posted by myself on a different site)
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No kidding, sister. I think the problem really lies in the focus put on a girl's appearance. Since when is personal quality based on what that person looks like? It's a shame. No girl should be told that, though. Ever. It's bad enough society wracks our self esteems to an all-time low. No need for the icing on the cake...
Society is a terrible judge of female beauty. Men can walk around with a beer belly and still be considered appealing but if a woman has any more than maybe 4% body fat they're considered a cow and undesireable. It's awful and does often lead to self mutilation, suicide, or eating disorders. That's why I was relieved this year when Spain and England put bans on models who were too skinny during their international fashion weeks. Doctors were brought in to test each model who was schedueled for the runway and those who were under a healthy level of bodyfat were not allowed to walk. This encouraged me because at least somewhere in the world they are trying to promote a healthier, more accepting view of the female physique. Maybe someday in the not too distant future we'll all be able to look in the mirror and be happy with what we see.
That little story aside, in general insults hurt deeply from those you hold in high regard.
There are many guys that treat women like crap and women who treat men like crap. Ironically, I think girls like it when they get treated poorly. But that is another discussion.
Nyah, I like your post because even though it had a fem bent, it was adequately balanced (albeit, a little corny at times ;) )
And though I think it's healthy to have high selfesteem if you're a man or woman, I also think you shouldn't live in denial. Some people are blessed with good looks and others aren't. It's a crap shoot.
We're all hypocrites. I like to think that I look past a woman's looks but in all honesty, I don't think I would date someone I find "ugly." And I honestly think very very few men and women would.
Society has an image of what men and women should be. I do believe that women are held to a much more strict standard than men but we're all victims.
Here is a question for all of you. What should have the guy told the girl in the above story? "You're not my type."? I would have said, "Cuz you're suicidal! Now leave me alone!"
-R
I had something like that happen to me, one of my best friends let me meet this guy and we were exactly alike one another. We did everything together and we were like two halves of eachother, in any case, I thought he was amazing and when I asked why he wouldn't go out with me he said, "You're not my type" which hurt, I'm not going to lie, then I asked him to tell me more, and he just kinda ignored me. He used everything I had, we loved the same music, we shared my ipod, I took him home when his car wasn't working, which was most of the time, he let me ask him questions on homework and he and I are still friends but he knows there's that hate under the surface for what he did, I know what it is now. I'm not the smallest girl in school, I'm not reserved and perfect with red hair, I'm not the cheerleader type that loves rock music. I'm myself and Boys have started it, they believe that they have the right to choose what their girl is like and that's where we get our media propaganda. They may have the privilage but girls shouldn't have to conform to this, we can help eachother and that's a wonderful post to have.
Alexa
I REMEMBER I WOULDNT EVN GET A SECOND GLANCE FROM A BOY UNLESS HE THOUGHT HE COULD GET SEX FROM ME...UNTIL LIKE 11TH GRADE I WASNT EVEN CONSIDERE GOOD LOOKING..THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN I BECAME THE HOT GIRL AT SCHOOL AND GUYS THOUGHT I WAS SEXXI.... AND I JUST KIND OF DISSED THEM SAYING U DIDNT THINK I WAS O IMPORTANT WHEN U WERE TALKING ABOUT ME....AND I FLICKED THEM....
BUT IN TRUTH THERE ARE SOME GUYS AND EVEN SOME FEMALES WHO ARE COMPLETELY SHALLOW BUT THEN THEIR ARE SOME WHO ARENT...BEAUTY BEHOLDER YOU KNOW THE REST.
DARE TO LOVE.....
It took me a long time to love myself, and sometimes, I'm not 100% sure i'm there yet. It is a terrible, how important beauty is to women. I read my signature quote all the time to remind myself to love me first.
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Had we not loved ourselves at all, we could never have been obliged to love anything. So that self-love is the basis of all love.
- Thomas Traherne
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Girl: I have to tell you something...
Boy: What?
Girl: I really like you. And I... I think I'm falling in love with you.
Boy: Ok...
Girl: What do you mean "ok"?
Boy: I don't like you like that...
Girl: Why not?
Boy: I can't tell you... maybe another time...
From then on, the girl kept asking the boy "Why not?" whenever she saw him, and he kept answering the same answer of "I'll tell you later." Finally the girl got fed up.
Girl: I'm tired of this! Tell me why you don't like me!
Boy: Do you really wanna know why?
Girl: Yes!
Boy: It's because you're ugly! What's the point of going out with someone when they're not pretty?!
Girl: But... I...
Boy: Just shut up and leave me alone!
The boy leaves and the girl is sitting there alone, crying her heart out. Then her cell phone rings.
Girl: Hello?
Mom: Sweetheart? I want you to go home, ok? I'll be home from work in a few hours.
Girl: Alright Mom.
Mom: I love you.
Girl: I love you too, Mom.
Mom: Bye Bye.
Girl: Bye
The girl heads home and once she got there, she went in the bathroom and looked at herself in the mirror.
Girl: I'm not pretty enough...
She set to work, knowing fully well what she was going to do. 2 hours later, her Mom came home and heard the bath water running. She went upstairs to find the hallway flooded so she knocked on the door.
Mom: Honey? Are you alright?
She opened the door and was shocked at the site. The bath was overflowing onto the floor, and the water was tinted red. She walked over to see what was inside and screamed. There, her little girl was lying with cuts all over her face and wrists. Her Mom backed away and was going to run to call the police when something caught her eye. On the mirror, am I pretty enough now?
No one deserves to be told that by someone they love. If you find it messed up then forward this to everyone you know.
A person's appearance doesn't count. What counts is their heart inside of them and their personality. No one wants to be told they're not good enough...
Repost this in 5 Min or something bad will happen 2 U tomorrow