Why is it that every person I get to know eventually look at me like i'm crazy, for the same specific reason. People have argued me about this, with closed minds and hard stares. Abstinance, but not just not having sex before marriage, no my abstinance is a little deeper. I was raised by both my mother and my father, who have been married for a happy 25 years. They were eachothers first real realtionship, meaning my mothers first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything, was my father. That is how I was raised, not that i'm forced to only have one boyfriend in my life. But my entire life I have looked to my parents for everything. When it comes to relationships I look at theirs and only wish for the same happiness they have.
So I belive that I will only have one boyfriend in my life. Now that doesn't by any means that I won't go out on dates, flirt, and have fun and get to know diffrent guys. It just means I won't go and kiss guys out of nowhere. And i'm proud to say that I have yet to be kissed, because I have yet to find the person who I know deserves it.
Why I don't understand is why my descions cause such an uproar from other people. Even really good friends with whom I have strong friendships with fight me on this topic. Why do people have a problem with my choice of not going around and hooking up? I don't comment people who hook up, and by the second month break it off; with a frindship lost, and an empty feeling.
I usually tell this to people who argue with me on this topic, "I personally was raised on certain morals and values. You were raised diffrently. I belive in this, while you believe in other things. But I don't care what you do with your life, you can believe what you want. That is your freedom to do so. But why do you judge me for my belief?"
We as people are born with the freedom to choose, free will. I cannot tell someone how to act or be. Neither can a perosn do the same to me. But why are people so close-minded? Why can't they just accept me, and forget about it? It's not like from choosing to do this i'm affecting their lives.
But that's what I don't understand about life. If one thing in your eyes seems right. There will always be a person there trying to make you conform and be like everyone else! Dont let them do it! Be yourself! No matter what you belive and who you are. You and what you believe in goes above all others and what their belief of whats good for you. Just be you.
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I say stick to your guns so long as what you believe in is morally right..and I do believe that there is an universal morality.(*not just what one thinks is right or wrong, but what actually is) If you believe in something that's wrong, then perhaps one should consider what they think.
But in terms of your abstinence: that is truly great. (maybe i'm not supposed to be stating my opinion on it, but that's some good morals you got there, at least in terms of sexual experience).
I hope that the rest of the morals follow.
Toodles.
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I totally understand where you're coming from. I have some friends who seem to think I need a boyfriend. I try to explain that I haven't found the right person yet. I'm not going to just go out with someone and be someone's girlfriend so I can be another tally on the wall for him. I want to start dating someone who I actually know, and actually care about. Maybe I'm weird, but to me, everyone else is weird for having another relationship every other freakin' week.
...so yeah. I feel your pain.
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I applaud you for your courage to stick to your beliefs. Personally I grew up in a much different situation, but I also see that it hasn't done me the best. I have a few friends who choose complete abstinence and they seem to have much happier lives.
But I wouldn't give up my life for the world.
* Barbara-Michelle
I applaud you for sticking to what you believe in and not giving in to peer pressure! You don't need to be like everyone else!
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
I am glad that you made that choice. I kissed other guys when I was single but nothing more. I waited until I found my boyfriend until I did other things and waited after being with him a long time. I have been with him for 3 years now and we are doing great. I was raised also in a different background but was taught that love is the most important thing when being with a guy. This is a great decision you made, and I believe also don't let anyone change your beliefs in anything!
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