Now that you’ve seen the title, I know you want to know what’s inside. It’s in your humanly nature. Curiosity killed the cat- are you curious enough to open this blog?
There is something in our nature that makes us nosy. I am nosy. I love to know others’ business. I am normally of the highest moral character, but not when it comes to being nosy. I will gladly admit fault for anything, tell the truth even when it screws me in the end, and respect others. However, if I hear you talking I want to know who and what you are talking about. I like to open the cabinets underneath sinks to see what cleaners might be hiding out in there. I enjoy people watching. If I hear my neighbors making noise, I rush to the window to see what they are doing. It’s as if I cannot help it- something pulls me to the window.
I wonder what makes us so curious about others’ affairs. Is it paranoia mixed with fear, possibly resulting from the crap we see in the news every night? Could it be in our nature, a result of some defense mechanism that evolved over time? Is it because we once saw someone else being nosy as a child and now thrive to become nosy as well? I also wonder if I can prevent myself from being nosy. I think I could restrain my nosy urges, but sometimes I like it. I see nothing wrong with walking to the window if my neighbor is being loud enough to catch my attention. Even though I am nosy, I don’t share others information. Nobody is hurt or embarrassed as a result of my nosiness.
So, what are your thoughts on being nosy? Is it good, bad, or are you undecided? Have you ever had a nosy situation backfire? I once thought a thermometer underneath a cabinet in my future husband’s house was a pregnancy test, but then again I discovered a friend was in a bad situation by reading an email she had open. Any similar stories?
I'm completely nosy, and happy to confess it. I want to know every little detail and every single dirty secret that one may have. I don't divulge those things when I do know them, but not knowing them myself drives me absolutely insane. And I don't mind when people ask me nosy questions (usually... I could do without some of the questions complete strangers ask). It irritates me to no end, however, when one knows something and immediately goes and blabs it all over the place. Just because you know something doesn't mean you have the right to share it with the world, or, heaven forbid, to twist it until the truth is barely recognizable and call it truth.
I actually think it's because I'm nosy that people are forever coming to me for advice about whatever situation they may be in or simply for someone to listen. I'll listen to anything and help when asked... it kind of goes together I guess.
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An education isn't how much you have committed to memory, or even how much you know. It's being able to differentiate between what you do know and what you don't- A. France
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But I try really hard to fight it. My mom used to read my journals when I was a teenager, and it drove me insane. It made me not trust anyone for a long time, and to this day it affects my openness about my writing. Only a few people who know me in the real world know this blog exists, because I am so embarrassed about showing my writing to anyone to this day. And it's been 20 years.
Violating trust is a serious issue.
Now, needling someone till THEY violate trust and give you the goods...that's another thing!
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
You? Afraid to show your writing? I'm surprised in you, E.W. You seemed like the open, sharing individual, but then again the anonymity of the Internet is great.
I'm quite shy in that sense too. Many of my writings I can't let people see. I guess it's some superstition about being jinxed before getting something published.
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My mom read my stuff as well, and it took me a long time to let anyone read my writing because she would make fun of me or chew me out for what I wrote. It was kinda hard to get over. I know the feeling, though.
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My best friend and I were discussing that the other day when someone attempted to steal her journal. In the past, she kept another journal, but her family gave her no privacy - they even read her journal in front of her face! So she gave up writing after that. I'm so glad that she writes again though, now... but she still doesn't trust her family enough to leave her journal at home. She brings it everywhere with her (I think my habit of doing that rubbed off!)
I've read your blogs and I can't imagine you being embarrassed about what you write - you shouldn't be! :P
PCG
I don't like to violate trust, either. I can know about anyone's secret, but I wont go and blab it. I think I give good advice as well- mainly because I keep it objective, but also because if I haven't lived through the situation myself I've heard about someone else's in full detail. I try to keep the snooping to a minimum unless it's someone that I know would approve, because like ediblewoman my mom was too nosy.
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I am nosy as well. I agree if it doesn't violate trust issues or hurt anyone it is fine. Once it crosses that line then it isn't a good thing anymore. The funny things is I can hear a mile away. I can not stand when I hear my name in a conversation. If I hear my name by being nosy I will say something. Say it to my face you don't have to tell the whole world my business. I also don't tell other people. I am good at keeping secrets and being loyal to people. I have never talked bad about a friend until they screwed me over.
I am very obssessive If I don't know something it will bug me until I do know. Like for example if someone says I have a surprise for you I am fine for awhile, then if they don't tell me with in like 2 weeks I will go nuts. I hate not knowing something. In these situations It is best not to tell me you hav a surprise lol.
I am very nosy and I think it is fine. I believe people should have some form of privacy because like ediblewomen my mom was too nosy and ruined alot of things like trust. My dad is that way too not as bad though. I think it is fine. I like to be aware of what is going on around me. I believe that it can really help you. I observe alot as well. People will think i'm quiet, but really I am observing a person's mannerisms. as you can tell I'm not quiet lol. People who actually know me know this I hate when people judge when they don't know...
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
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Interesting hook there! Reminds me of my mind control blog.
I am nosy, but not openly nosy. Like, I'll check out what's in a person's house (not, of course, peeking into drawers or closets or things. Usually). Seeing how people decorate their houses seems to say a little something about themselves.
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I think peoples' cars tell a lot about their personality, too. I like to nonchalantly peek in windows whenever I see someone's car in the parking garage. It's interesting to see what all they have in there.
I love abortion. Read more here:
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From my experience, the more quiet your mind is, and the less answers you demand from people, the more information will come to you. (Less answers demanded as in bugging people for information they don't want to give out.) I ask few questions, and yet I know things...some people call me a stalker. :-SS
With my friends, this builds more trust. We respect each other's privacy, and just cherish the time we spend together and what we know about each other already. Most of our lives, we have had no privacy - people reading our journals, "friends" spilling out our secrets to the world, enemies hounding us for private information - so just having a friend who does not ask any questions and understand the other's need of privacy makes us trust the other one more.
I think that most humans are just naturally nosy. XD I do admit that if I don't control myself, I would be reading everyone's personal diaries right now. When I was a little kid, I would find my sister's journals lying around and I would open them and read them. That destroyed a lot of trust between us... Thankfully, I know better now. ^_^ Yesterday, I found one of her journals on a bookshelf - and I didn't touch it! So proud of myself~ :D
People always told me stuff. I was loud and outgoing, but I never talked about other people's personal lives. I guess they realized that I wouldn't talk about theirs, either.
I love abortion. Read more here:
http://progressiveu.org/044921-i-love-abortion-even-if-it-murder