Wow. What has happened to America? You know how you watch those movies from back in the day--where Audrey Hepburn is wearing her knee length skirt, walking with a guy and they go into a building and he opens the door for her? Oh, those were the days!
Now, I can barely get a guy to just say "Excuse me" or "Sorry" when he runs into me. Come on.
Here's an example: I am obviously behind a guy who is going into the dorm, make myself known with a slight cough or clearing of the throat, and he just you know, opens the door for himself and expects me to get it myself. Awesome! WAY TO GO! Way to be a 'gentleman.' You're not a gentleman, you're a jerk!
It just drives me crazy. I hope I'm not alone here.
Now, I don't want to go back to the 1950's, but it would be nice for some courtesy. Especially when someone obviously has their hands full and can't open the door. Like the first week of school my hands were full of groceries and this guy just doesn't even care....he doesn't ask if I need help...or doesn't even THINK to hold the door for me! Whats the deal with that?
Even when I am on the bus. The guys just go and plop down in a seat on the bus while the women are standing up holding on for dear life. I am pretty sure I would pee in my pants if a guy stood up and asked a woman to take his spot.
The world is a self centered world and I hate it. I wish people would think of someone else for once in their life. Like the "Pay it forward" idea. If you do something nice like hold a door or say something polite to three people, and they do the same for three people and so on....the world would be SO MUCH better! How incredible. Its such a simple idea but it can have such an astonishing impact on the world.
Think about others. Especially the older women or impaired. Women can take a cue from that too. Hold the door for others! Smile for once! Use those manners your parents pounded into your head.
Don't be stupid and ignorant.
And thats my rant of the day.
i agree with you that chilvary is dead, however not everybody has lost their chilvary. its a matter or choice actually. this guy i know always opens doors for woman and says excuse me. when i go to grab a door and hes with me, i am pulled aside for even trying to open the door. the way he was brought up by his parents and grandparents was that woman are angels. well maybe not angels, but woman are to be treated with respect. and that is how he is living his life. so granted most men have no chivalry, but not all men have. and in addition it really has to do with a matter of choice. whether or not they have been taught chivalry and whether or not they choose to abide by it.
i too know a gentlemen. he is in high school, and will always open the door for girls, or anyone in general, or get people a chair, or music stand, or anything. he is the kindest guy i know. however, i don't know many others like that.
Ahhh, I was coming into my apartment one day, carrying a huge case of like 15 bottles of water that I just purchased. I am struggling to open the door, propping the case on my knee while balancing on one leg and everything. And these people, THREE people, who are coming out of the building, assume that I am holding the door for them. They leave, say "thanks," (which means they had to look at me in my peeved state), and go off on their merry way. I think it took me ten minutes to reach my apartment door all on my own. Good lord.
So, in short, I hear your pain. :)
I don't like sitting on the bus when its crowded, and would rather stand, but 90% of the time, when the bus is completely full, at least one gentleman will offer his seat to me.
about 50% of the time, when I'm packing the car up after volleyball, some nice gentleman will offer to help me with my things.
and sometimes, even when I'm walking with bags for they don't know how far, guys will offer to help me carry my groceries home. I'm 22 and these are usually other young guys.
Southern men hold doors open, carry heavy things, and know that ladies go first, or else there mothers going to smack them i the head, or any good lady will. (I heard a great line recently, a woman at a door her boyfriend had failed to open said to him "Your mama's watching." and he instantly realized his mistake and opened the door.)
"I will greet this day with love, and I will succeed!"--Og Mandino
chivalry was created to coddle women because it was thought that they could not care for themselves.
so if a woman expects chivalry....than she should not complain about the wage gap....because it all goes hand and hand..
However, i always hold the door, it just being polite