Abortion has been a heated debate for years. Ever since Roe v. Wade, it has been a hot topic issue. Everyone has a take on it. Why it is wrong. Why it is right. No matter what no one seems to be able to agree. My personal opinion is that, there are so many options out there today, women should not have to worry about unwanted pregnancies. Abortion should only be done if the woman’s life is at risk or if she is a rape or incest victim. I don’t think women should be able to have an abortion all willy nilly. I think it’s horrible when people abort their unborn baby, when they find out it has down syndrome or some other genetic abnormality. I know of people that have had multiple abortions. I know there are going to be people who agree with me and some that don’t. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. So why can’t everyone just do what they want with their own bodies. They will have to deal with the emotions or lack of. And the rest of us can agree to disagree.
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Do you know what it takes to take care of a child with down sydrome? If you are already in a weak position, could it be possible you will unable to care for them properly and they will suffer and die anyway later because the needs they have to keep going (like surgeries to close heart defects that you can't afford, and keeping the child out of danger while your at work working off the medical bills).
Some people consider it kindness and mercy to the child.
Of course, aborting to get the proper gender or eye color (yes it has been done) is pretty selfish, in this country at least.
What I want to know, if everybody is upset about abortion, why is no one crying over in vitro fertilization, where embryos are made and destroyed, several of them, just to get one baby.
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Why does it matter if a child has down syndrome or any other medical issue? I don't care what kind of medical problems my baby has, I will not love my baby any less. Money is no issue when it comes to the health of my child. If it was too much of a financial burden on me, I would move to a state that offers free health care for my child.
what I'm saying is that its not necesarily about love. If a parent is not capable of taking care of the child properly or at all, who will? group homes are not all they're cracked up to be. A parent may have other children that need to be taken care of, and that parents collapse as a human being under the weight of responsibilty for a child that could end up dying or suffering for lack of care now sacrifices even more.
I must note, I am playing devil's advocate here. I do not believe abort just because of downs.
Had I had a child with downs my first time around I would have kept the child.
I personally am in a theoretical conundrum...Now if I were to have a child with down syndrome, I would be completely unable to take care of it. I know that. I also would have that last my bit of my strength taken away and be finished off as a responsible capable human, thus leaving my other two children without a parent. I don't believe in abortion personally for me, and life is precious, at least give the baby a chance and blahbah blah....but I know I would be leading the baby into hell. No one to take care of it, dumped in a group home, my children abandoned....what does my conscience tell me.
What does it mean, not abot not WANTing to shoudler the burden, but being INCAPABLE of shoudlering the burden. Wishes can't make it better. What is the more ethical choice?
I don't know. Personally, I choose to be (mostly) male celibate so I don't have to be burdened with such a dilemma.
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I had a friend whose younger sister has down syndrome. At seven she already had sugery on her heart and went to physical therepy every week. she was the youngest of 4 children. She was the sweetest little girl I had ever met. She was very loving and well loved. all of the chidren was well taken care of. their mother did what she had to do to take care of all of her children.
I know how hard it can be to take care a a child with any serious illness. But aborting a child because of he/she is not healthy is like saying they don't want it because it is not perfect.
I understand u are playing devils advocate.
its not like saying that their not wanted. Its saying that you don't want them to suffer any more than they have to. imagine the mother who has that sweet little girl, but can't afford the heart surgery. She has to watch her daughter slowly die over a period of a month, because she has no health care and can't afford it. My cousin, I love her a lot, has NO healthcare, and my state WILL NOT cover her medical bills. My aunt went bankrupt, and is so ill, she could not possibly take care of another child.
what about the down syndrome child that does not have access to physical therapy, with a single parent with a disablity of their own. That child has to suffer from poor muscle tone, back injuries, repeated sinus infection from the smaller sinus cavities, not to mention other health problems. Suffering verbal and physical abuse from mulitple realms, while the other children's care suffers. Only to ultimately succumb to one of the multiple health problems that they have, or get kidnapped, abused because they do have to be watched every minute as children or hit by a car, or receiving scalding burns.
Just because some people can do it, doesn't mean we all can.
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My aunt was pregnant for the second time and the doctor's told her something was wrong w/ the baby. Before they could tell her, she told them not to, because she didn't care. She already had one daughter and was a paramedic (they don't even get health insurance). but she said whatever is wrong w/ her baby she would just love him more. when she was 7 months she went into labor, and the baby was stillborn. she finally found out the baby would had been autistic. she was heart broken. she knew something was wrong with her baby, she didn't know what, but it could had been down syndrome, but she didn't care. She's by no means rich, but she would had done what she had to. she didn't even want to know what was wrong w/ the baby
Having healthy children cause alot of money.
money shouldnt be an issue but it is. When we are mostly safe class wise, it is easy for us to say that. When we are not, we get close to understanding what happens when we cannot meet our own needs, much less what will happen to someone we are in charge of. What you lack in money you must be able to make up in other resources. And those wear down. All the money shouldn't matter in the world wont make medical care appear when its needed, or a nurse, or home health care, or food, or clothes, or rent. Shoulds don't keep a roof over your head or stop an eviction letter. They don't keep children services out of your home because your worn down and people are more concerned with other shoulds than understanding and workinig at the intersections where reality meets.
For me, my first two children I would have been like your aunt. Maybe if I ahd another. But it doesn't change the real possiblities.
I'm sorry for your aunts loss.
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I respect you opinion, and I sense you respect mine as well. The point of this blog was to generate a discussion about abortion, (which I hoped other's would have joined in, but oh well). The point of it was to point out that somethings everyone will have an opinion based on their beliefs and they can not be changed if it's in their heart. My point:
Abortion is one of those things. We could go on for ever for why it is wrong(my opinion) or why it is okay (your opinion), but why? what's the point? There are more important things to do. Bigger fish to fry. I think there are bigger problems in this country, then deciding if a woman can abort their unwanted child. I will always be pro-life. I will just assume that you are pro-choice(correct me if i am wrong). But what is the point of the government being so involved in people's private business that they waste a whole day deciding if it should be legal or not. Aren't there better things they could be doing? ie: housing the homeless, healthcare for you and me(I don't know about you, but I can't afford health care. I'm thankful my school offers free healthcare), or this AIDS empedimic. When will they realize what I have realized a long time ago. Everyone have their beliefs and a law will not change that. We should just agree to disagree and move on to more important topics.
I respect your point to and am glad that you are reading my posts with the respect they are written.
If I have to take a label, I would call myself pro-life. Didn't believe in abortion, didn't have one.
My friend in college, was shocked, she said I've never heard someone calling htemselves pro-life who have such opinions on abortion. Usually if people waiver in anyway they call themselves pro-life.
Maybe I am pro-life and pro-choice. I actually think I'm none of those.
I got your point from your titel, but not really from your blog, but it was a while ago when this conversation started. My take? I'm going to have to agree with you on a lot, especially this way, its not that I don't think abortion should not take up political, social and legal discussion, but it is taking up so much of the table space that other issues (that could actually reduce abortion, AND unwanted pregnacy, AND deal with a whole host of other problem unrelated) are being significantly neglected. SO, In spite of my taking the opposite end of the conversation here, which I do believe, I'm not just doing it to play devils advocate. I do agree in that respect.
Perhaps we should each write a blog on one of those issues?
Would you like to? Its a challenge.
I can try to have mine done in two weeks. I have this other alien blog I've been promising that I need to write.
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I undertand what you are saying.
And yes, I accept your challenge. I will write my blog on an issue soon.