Believe it or not, girls... there ARE some guys out there who hold doors open for girls! They're out there: you just have to be lucky enough to stumble upon one! There really ARE gentlemen out there! It shocked and amazed me, but it's true!
I mean, how many times does a guy walking in front of you open a door that you're about to go through, and then just let it slam into you? I'd guess-timate it happens to me about a thousand times a week. I'm not kidding.
I think it's kind of a good thing that chivalry is dying though, because I think the guys who actually ARE gentlemen and chivalrous will be more appreciated. I mean, I personally appreciate it a whole heck of a lot when a guy holds a door open for me. It seems like such a small thing, but it's a common courtesy that you just don't see very often these days, so when it does happen, you've got to appreciate it.
I think if things today were like how they were in the Victorian ages: with guys holding doors for women and standing up at the table whenever a woman leaves.... Here, let me rephrase: If all guys today were like Hugh Jackman's character on Kate and Leopold, I think the common courtesies they'd display would be severely taken for granted. So in a way, it's kind of good that chivalry is dying off because this way, they'll be more appreciated. The chivalrous guys, because they're so few and far apart in this day and age; stand out among all the guys who simply don't think of common courtesies such as holding open doors. In the busy, fast-paced, GO-GO-GO, hussle of today's world, holding doors open for other people is just not something that comes to mind often. We're all walking along, worried about deadlines, due dates, and whatever else might have our attention at the moment. We're sometimes so enveloped in our own world to even realize there are other people co-existing with us out there. And this, I think, is the reason that chivalry is dying. I just hope it doesn't die off completely. That would be sad.
I just wanted to give a shout out to all the guys who still uphold the gentlemanly qualities that used to be common in guys:
WHOO HOO! YAAAY GENTLEMEN! GO YOU! You ARE appreciated!
Very, very, VERY true! ^_^
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
True. Chivalry is not dead. But, in my opinion, it has changed so much as to be completely different. What I've come to call it is new chivalry. Something that I try to go by as much as possible.
New chivalry is more about honesty and mercy than anything else. Upholding promises, etc. Not focused on courteous behavior of men towards women, but courteous behavior towards all. Peace and control are big: if you cannot control yourself, and if you do not have internal peace, you cannot promote peace and control in others. Things like that. And I'm happy to say that there is at least one person who hold these ideals.
-TerranCoder
I enjoy the occasional door opening business,....because thats just respectful and courteous of someone to hold a door open. I mean i hold doors open for people all the time,...does that make me chivalrous? no that means im kind and courteous. But women rant continuesly about how men should treat women as their equal, yet we constantly complain men dont hold doors open for us,...or stand up when a women walks into the room. Poor men are confused!,...their simple minded we cant constantly strifle back and forth between treat us as princesses,...to treat us as ur equal. If women want to be emobied as being strong and independent ,....then dont expect a man to treat u as anything other then that.
This is pretty much the comment I was going to write. It is funny when I come across a gentleman, though, because I hold doors for everyone, so they often try to take the door from me to let me go in first. I seldom pick up on this, as I am a big ol' lesbian and I just don't think that men need to be holding doors for me. So, after a few minutes of both of us saying, "no, really, YOU go first," I usually figure out that he's trying his damndest to be polite, and I scoot through awkwardly. It's kind of a silly idea, unless the woman has some disability that prevents her from opening doors and pulling out chairs.
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Well sometimes when I'm following behind a guy who's about to go through the same doors as I am, he just lets the door slam in my face. Now that's rude. And also, sometimes I'm carrying a bunch of stuff and trying to go through a door and people are just totally oblivious. It's those times when I wish people would be more courteous. I'm not suggesting that people hold the door open every single time I walk through one. I'm just saying that every once in a while would be nice, like when i really need it! lol.
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It is so rare that I don't expect any guys to open the door for me...but when they do, it's a breath of fresh air. It's also a reminder that there is goodness in the world and to go out of your way for a stranger...is just a nice thing to do. Period.
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EXACTLY my point! Thank you!
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Hey thanks for posting on mine. :) I read yours a long time ago :) its very good and very true. I dont understand why people cant be nice. It amazing me when people are mean to people just to be hatefull :*( i cant stand it. The last person i remember being mean like that was my brother, he was making fun of a fat girl and made her cry to to be cool in front of his friends. . . . Well I punched him in the nose and told him to say he was sorry and then told his friends to stop laughing or he was next. I know that might be mean, but i tried talking to him about it many times and he just needed to learn his lesson.
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Wow. It just saddens me how some people can be that shallow. No one has ever made fun of me to my face, probably because they're afraid they'd get punched... I can be intimidating, I guess. I don't usually get made fun of, but when I do, I just ignore it. I know in my heart that I'm beautiful. That poor girl. I probably would have thought about punching him, but I'm too much of a goody two shoes to act on violence. I pride myself for being able to walk away and not start a fight. But I guess what you did was justified, if that was the only way to make him learn his lesson. Some people have to learn things the hard way.
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"Poetry is an echo, asking a shadow to dance." -Carl Sandburg
"Poetry is thoughts that breathe, and words that burn." -Thomas Gray
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