I was wrong. I don't know about everyone else, but it's definitely the hardest sentence for me to say. I have no problem saying that I'm sorry. I probably even say it too much. The probably comes with those, "I'm sorry, but....[insert lame excuse here]." I have a bad habit of becoming defensive when someone (my husband usually) calls me out on something I've said or done wrong. I tend to just come up with an excuse for it and act like it's no big deal. However, over the last couple of years, I have realized that I have been wrong a lot and apologized way too much. I don't think apologizing is a sign of weakness since it can be rather difficult to say that your sorry, but humbly admitting that we are wrong takes extra strength.
Humility. We need it to be able to genuinely admit that we are wrong. I let my pride get in the way when I don't want to admit my mistakes. I have to step down from my throne and be comfortable doing so from time to time. Then, there's vulnerability. Not wanting to back down is one thing, being afraid that the other person will exploit you is another. Humbling myself and opening myself up to someone else runs the risk of attack. What if the other says, "Yah, you suck!" It doesn't matter. That person then has his or her own pride to overcome.
In this case, it's about me and how I choose to interact with others. I don't want to be the kind of person who floats above everyone else pretending to know everything and making judgements. I want to be comfortable with my faults and embrace them so that I can then overcome them. I'm more humble and comfortable being vulnerable to others now, but I still have a long way to go.
Just kidding. It is a hard thing to admit, though.
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so true about the other person needing to overcome their own pride. Its like jesus said...turn the other cheek.
I've been spinning a lot of related topics around in my head lately. You just can't worry about whether the other person overcomes their pride right then too. If you do, then you can handle it.
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I wish my gf could realize she needs to admit she's wrong more often. HAHAH I KNOW she thinks the same about me.
Anyways, this post is grate. You wrote about yourself, but u're speaking about everyone. Everyone should read this, and I'm glad I did. I need to learn to do the same.
If you your interested, just work on catching yourself when you know that your wrong and dodging the bullet. Then admit it to your girlfriend. She might join you in the catching process.
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I don't have a problem admitting I'm wrong, and I'll even admit that I am wrong a lot, whether I say something or do something I really know I shouldn't have risked saying or doing. I have a bigger problem when someone else refuses to admit that s/he was wrong by throwing in, "That's not what I said / did / meant!" You're right though. It doesn't really matter in the whole scheme of things if others can admit when they are wrong.
Good blog. I hope it's taken into consideration.
-Sonja :)
"Democracy works only when you vote. When you don't take the time to vote for the candidate you find the least offensive, you run the risk of electing the candidate you find the most offensive."
At least your committed to not stooping to their level. Some people just can't see that they're wrong, so admitting it is a completely foreign idea. I think this was the case with me sometimes. I just couldn't see how I was wrong in that moment, but I've realized it now. I guess you just have to accept people where they're at and be compassionate when they can't see how wrong they are.
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True, apologizing makes you stronger not weaker. An ideology is a man crying, but by showing his weakness he is showing his strength. Those who "ARE AFRAID" to cry are weak.