...what is and isn't a relationship. Don't tell me what can and can't be love. Don't tell me that something can't be done because it isn't "normal." Don't make absolute judgments on something based on your personal experiences or lack of experience, and nothing else.
Statement: "Long distance relationships never work."
I've gotten this more than once, and it really ticks me off. I'm currently in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I met online (to clear up assumption one, no, it was not on MySpace or some other gigantic site where random weirdos hang out. It was on a small roleplaying community, we'd been talking for months before we decided we were more than just friends, and he's not forty). He lives in Australia; I live in the United States. We haven't met face-to-face in the two and some years we've been dating, but we plan on meeting up this June when he can't distract me from school (he's already graduated).
The way we did this turned out to be everything I wanted in a relationship. I think it's stronger than most close distance relationships are because a) it's based solely on trust (we hadn't seen pictures of each other, hadn't heard the other's voice; we had no idea if the other was telling the truth about anything. We trusted each other. Still that's the basis of our relationship, and I think that's the sort of base any relationship needs. If you can't trust your significant other I don't think it's going to last long. My personal opinion, of course.
Bottom line: we love each other. Some people don't understand how that's possible. That's fine. I can't explain it to you. You can say I'm deluding myself all you want, but I think I know the situation a little better than you, and no matter how many times people say it's not going to work out, I'm going to say it is... and those people are just making me more determined to make it work out. What can I say? It's a new world with new connections. I think long distance relationships are going to become more common and, eventually, more widely accepted. That assumption that they aren't going to work out is annoying; if you're truly dedicated to a person, you'll make it work. It's the same with a person you see IRL every day.
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i completely agree. no one can tell you what is and isn't love.
and your story is quite amazing. to be in love with someone you've never met...
not everyday you hear such an amazing story.
much love and godspeed.
I dont want to ruin your love( not that i could if i tried) but read your paper and see if it sounds like you are deluding yourself to you.
locke
I'm in a similar position. It takes a lot of effort to keep together a long distance relationship, especially trying to keep things new. If you can pull it off, it's a helluva lot stronger than a couple who just went out to new movies or something to freshen things up.
~C
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I have 3 friends who have similar situations. The relationship angle is possible, but there should also be a degree of caution when first meeting someone from the Internet in person. Have someone else with you or meet in a public area. I know, I know, it's a stupid thing to say, but I feel obligated to say it. Then, after that first meeting, everything should be a little less awkward. Give things a chance and THEN you'll have quite the story to tell here!