Defining pretty. This is such a seemingly easy task. Words that run through our heads are things like skinny, curvy, crystal clear eyes, ect… What do all these words mean? Society has made the standards that we should live up to the ones found in immeasurably edited fashion magazines. Who said last season’s shoes had to be thrown away? Who said we all had to be six feet tall and a size 2? Who said eating would throw you in hell’s open pit? A combination of eating disorders, gallons of make up, and numerous hours of time create these “picture perfect” looks we see.
China’s history dates incredibly far back. During one point in time, it was great to be fat. The fatter the better. To our, so called, “modern” ears, this makes no sense. Why would you want to have folds of blubber hanging around your tummy? Us Chinese have our “Four Great Beauties.” Amongst them, there is one on the chubbier side. Though her weight exceeded 200 pounds and she didn’t even brush five feet, she was considered drop-dead gorgeous in her time. Every step she took, her weight would make the floorboards squeak. It annoyed her so much that she sewed bells into all of her clothes. Society has obviously changed. Why must everybody be the same as the anorexic fakes you see on magazines next to the “How to Keep Him Interested, 102 Sex Positions” cover story?
Locker room talk. “Oh my gosh! You’re so skinny! Why can’t I be like you?” Of course, this is the skinny, tall, pretty little b**** saying this to the not so fortunate when it came to the genetic lottery. Then, that poor soul would have to compliment that little b**** back, and she feels like crap. If they know they’re pretty, why do they have to fish for compliments? Why do they have to go up to people and start talking about their obviously non-fat splashed thighs? It never made sense to me. Isn’t it adequate to just possess the knowledge that you’re a bit better off on the outside?
Inner beauty. Sure, everyone says that this is what matters, but that’s obviously not the case. When was the last time you saw a non-gorgeous Queen Bee? Umm… never? What’s being spat out of everybody’s mouths is that inner beauty matters more than outer beauty, but I doubt they even believe it anymore. Seeing somebody for the first time, you know nothing about them. You can’t tell me inner beauty is what matters here. Eyes naturally are used to see, and we see what’s put out in front of us. X-ray vision isn’t going to help. It’s the exterior of people our eyes meet first. This is what society has done to us. As soon as we look, we judge. Because of the models that are imprinted in our brains as “beautiful,” we can’t seem to see the beauty in anyone else anymore. Why can’t the standards just loosen up a bit? Why can’t they loosen up to what the normal person looks like? Nobody’s that perfect.
I think, in reality, everybody is in fact pretty in their own way. It just takes someone to notice it to embrace it. If someone was ugly on the outside, and we judge based on that alone, that person wouldn’t have friends. People always have someone else. That someone else was the one that learned to look past the thin sheet of skin on the outside. Society has tried to shape and mold our definition of “pretty,” but I think all it means is that you’re who you are and there’s always something special about you. Yes, it sounds corny, but isn’t it true?
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Unfortunately, everyone has formed in their mind the same picture of beauty, but there are still individuals who have views of beauty different than the social norm.
The downfall of beauty is that someone has to be the opposite. If there are characteristics that we seek as pretty, than their opposites are going to be looked on as ugly, whether pretty is being rather large,or being unhealthily skinny. No matter what we do in this earth to change the concept of outer beauty, there will always be outer ugliness.
Also, our society has just been fed the same crap on whats hot and whats not for so long, it will take a pseudo-divine act to change our concept of beauty. My psychology teacher taught me about this cool little rating system for a person. Instead of the normal 1-10 for looks its two scales, 1-10 added together, one for prettiness, and one for personality. The scale becomes a 1-20 scale (well 2-20, unless someone is a 0 on one of the scales) That will include inner and outer beauty.
It's horrible how society has standarized "pretty" as a tall girl and size 0. Half of them aren't even true "beauty" because they have probably been photoshoped to look perfect. So its not even 'true prettiness' its FAKE. I hate when girls are always commenting on their weight when they don't need to be. Its horrible that society has put this pressure on them, when they shouldn't be worrying at all. More and more girls are developing eating disorders. Society has CREATED another disease, that becomes more fatal with each year. If only the media could lay off of "skinny" then teens could be in peace. Even guys have become to believe that they need to be buff in order to be "macho."
Being skinny is more sickly looking to me, rather then pretty. Its just absurd how the media can brainwash.
Well anyway, i love the points you make. Very good entry.
I agree. Everyone is different, that's what makes us so unique.
You know, I really agree with everything you said. There is, however, always more you can talk about in every topic. I like girls. :] haha, but recently I've been looking for a girl who I like everything about. Girls are dumb. (guys are dumb too, but I'm not into them, so it doesn't matter). Girls seem to think that to get guys to notice they have to walk around so insecure and showin off thier boobs all over the place wearing the sluttiest thing they can get away with and pants that are tighter than socks. I hate that.
Honestly, I think girls who dress modestly are more phyically attractive, I don't know why, but I do. It's cute, not slutty. and I like that. If only there was a girl who dressed modestly and had enough sense to NOT date the man whore who they know is going to break thier hearts and make them unvailable for the rest of thier lives.
Anyways, you said people are shaped by society to look at someone and immediately judge. I agree. However, I also agree that a lot of that is instict, to an extent. That people are just naturally drawn to be conclusive on lack of evidence concerning looks. (i've been guilty of that, myself). Yeah, so basically I just thought you might want to read my crappy opinion, but probably not. :]
Me too. See It's not about the looks, more about the personality. One time I thought this guy in my class was really cute; you know your typical football player, and top of the class. Because he was ranked 10 in my class, i thought he would be better then the rest. (yep stereotypical me
) Anyway, as I got to know him, he just turned out to be a bigger jerk then the rest of them. So looks aren't everything.
I like the cute personalities in a guy. If they make me laugh i'm happy. NOT how big their muscles are.
So we're on the same page. GO US!
Haha, I don't think an opinion can be crappy. =] It's something you believe ... and me stomping on it won't change the train of thought you got going on. =] Oh well, I like your opinion. People's thoughts actually matter. =] I think I have too many smileys in this, oh well. =]
A.m.y. <3