Explain something to me.... why do people automatically think that single women over 35 are lesbians? Let me say upfront....I have no problems with lesbians. Everyone is entitled to live their life as they see fit. I'm 43 years old and single. I've never been married. I AM NOT A LESBIAN. I date several guys and absolutely love it. I am an independent, self-confident, intelligent woman. Why does that automatically make me gay? I just don't get it!
I love my life. I am a career oriented person. Don't get me wrong, I love to spend lots of time with my family and friends, but I do love my career. I meet lots of people, and, as a matter of fact, I met one of the guys I'm dating because I am working a second, part-time job. I have no objection to getting married. I still believe that it is possible for me, and look forward to it, but currently I haven't met the right guy. He has to be able to accept my life as it is.... workaholic, independence, and, as my mother would say, pushy - and all. I think he's out there, he just hasn't found me yet.
I cannot tell you the number of times that I've run into people that I haven't seen for a while who ask what I'm doing with my life and when I mention that I'm still single, they actually say to my face "You're not married? What, are you gay?" What the heck? Why think that in the first place, and how rude is it to say to my face???
For the record...not all singles are gay. Please, don't assume something when you don't know all the facts.
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I think it's ridiculous when people think like that. Some people just don't WANT to get married and some people actually wait for the right people. Who knows, maybe because you have taken this time to be yourself and let yourself find someone, you'll get married and be with that person for the rest of your life. A lot of people get married and then divorced within a few years. So according to their logic, getting married/divorced right away is better than waiting until you know someone is right for you or waiting until you know you're ready for that kind of commitment.
I honestly don't have anything to add here as I'm still a young one, only 17. But I know that if I were in a situation like that, it would make me very mad to have people ask me if I was a lesbian. I mean, afterall, if I was? It would be none of their business.
You know, the funny thing is, I do want to get married. My friends told me for many years that I was too picky.... I had too many things that I ruled out. Well, believe me, turning 40... I definitely lowered my expectations... breathing and a job top the list now! LOL Seriously though, I don't think that is the case. Being independent and self-sufficient can be the kiss of death sometimes for women. It can scare away a lot of guys. But I think I will find the right one.... I have a friend who just got married for the first time at 50 years old.... if she can do it, so can I!
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I don't understand why people would even think that in the first place. There is no rule that says when you have to get married or even that you do, getting married doesn't make you gay or not gay. People have no right to assume. I think its great that your established, indepentdent, intelligent and are waiting for the right person that will fit your lifestyle and not just getting married "because its what you suposed to do".
I have never conformed to what everyone else does, and probably never will. People most definitely have no right to assume, but sadly they do. As I said above, being independent can be troublesome for women as it scares away a lot of men. Logically they should be looking for that type of woman! (They're just too dense to figure that out, I think! LOL)
I'll keep standing up for independent women and trying to dispell the myth that we're all lesbians.....
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I've never understood that school of thought either. I suppose it's because people have been brainwashed for so long that women get married, have kids, etc, etc, etc and when that doesn't happen they assume something must be wrong and since homosexuality seems to be the biggest sin in the book of far too many ndividuals, it's a natural connection for them. Who knows? There are those of us out there that don't automatically assume anyone over the age of 30 or 35 that isn't married must be lesbian.
"We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us." -Marcel Proust
It's refreshing to hear someone agree with me. You're right though, even though homosexuality is becoming more accepted (ie. Rosie and Ellen) it's still a social sin to be gay.
Well, I'm sure I'll find someone... I may be old and gray, but until then, I'll keep campaigning for the single, independent women!!
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