Spouse abuse
I want to discuss the issue of spouse abuse. There are many things in this subject I want to go into detail to.
Firstly, I want to discuss WHY spouse abuse takes place. The answer to this question is simply that I don’t know. But I can take a few guesses. In most cases, the male is the abuser and the female the abused (I actually got this from the source “Sociology-A Down To Earth Approach). No offense to any males out there but I think this fact is true because of the human genetics. Had females been made as strong as males, the statistics would change. Anyways, I think that the abuser must have experienced abuse in the past, and continue to deal with it in their future. They may even think it’s right. I would also like to know if testosterone levels has anything to do with this. I know that in the same text I mentioned earlier, there had been a study done on weather males with more testosterone tend to be more abusive, but it said that it wasn’t a reasonable enough case (I forgot why). Another thing is that I think that males who have been in the army tend to be more aggressive than those who aren’t. My mother does not agree with me because she knows a lot of people who have served in the army in horrible conditions and treat their wives respectfully. Another thing I think is the reason, is that the male has the perspective of power, and uses his strength to maintain control.
The second thing I want to mention in spouse abuse, is why in most cases, it is not reported (to family members, friends, or officers). I know that part of that reason is shame. Women feel ashamed to admit that they have been beaten by their spouses. Just to have to relive the moment causes them enough damage. And they feel less human by discussing the issue. Another reason they don’t report it to officers is because they feel the government has no control in their relationships. If they are married with an abusive spouse, they are probably still with the spouse by force. Most women are threatened if they ever left the marriage. They feel that all that can be done is that the man gets arrested, and then he bails out, returns home and beats them again. In other cases, the females can’t support their family without their spouse, so they leave such issues to themselves.
Spouse abuse harms a relationship mentally, physically, and emotionally, as well as the children involved with the relationship. It is a serious issue not to be left within the borders of a home. I myself have the stereotype that the government has no power in these situations. I know this because my aunt was in a similar situation and when her husband left her, even on food stamps and welfare, she is not able to get by.
I believe that spouse abuse is morally WRONG and MUST be avoided at all costs.
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Your assumption that males who have spent time in the military (I know you said army, but really, if you're going to argue that the army is aggressive, I'm pretty sure we can agree that so are the other branches as well) are more aggressive than males who haven't is completely unfounded. My husband is a soldier, and he is the most caring, loving person I know. Being in this position, I've met quite a few of the guys in his platoon, as well as on the base in general, and I've never seen or heard of any of them becoming violent or aggressive. A lot of them really don't like conflict (even having just been deployed) and will avoid it at all costs.
Women also abuse their husbands as well, although it isn't as common as the other way around-abuse has nothing to do with strength, but rather, power, just as rape has nothing to do with sex really, but having power over someone else.
Thanks for making it clear. I was influenced by a tv program about it. But it depends on the individual. I guess my mother was right. I just assumed that because of the violence involved with their careers.
There may be studies out there that support your assertion. My point is just that such an assertion needs backing. A little research might make this a strong post. Or it might invalidate it. I can't say one way or the other, because I haven't done the research. ;)
I completely agree with you about the underreporting of spousal abuse, though. I forgot to write that in the last comment. Women are just scared to death a lot of the time. It gets hard to see past the fear.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
Yea it is hard to speak up. Its a real personal issue. I think I should have chosen a better title for this blog because I meant physical abuse. But ofcourse other types of abuse occur in relationships as well.
If you are referring to men who have been in the army are agressive, I want to say that I was not trying to make judgements, I just posted what I know about the issue which I learned from a documentary. But I also said my mother disagrees with me becasue there are other views out there and I want to know them. So I thank you and abthomas51 for commenting on my blog : )
Anytime:) I hope you didn't take my response personally, I just have issues with people who assume that military personnel have a greater tendency towards aggression or do horrible, heinous, inhuman acts of violence and cruelty. You're not the first I've heard this from, and unfortunately it won't be the last. I was just discussing this with my husband, and service members who have been deployed must go through and complete reintergration classes, one of which includes what he calls 'don't beat your wife or dog, or the neighbor kid down the street' class. Anything-including violence towards anybody or anything- that could make the military look bad is frowned upon, and if a service member is caught doing any of these things it is grounds for some pretty serious punishments, including losing paygrades, being passed up for a promotion, extra duty, and even a dishonorable discharge.
No problem. I love to get comments. This one was very informative actually. If you didn't post it, i don't think I or anyone else would probably know. I don't know if i already said this, but the documentary i watched was a case study so i guess theres flaws in that that i couldn't see through.
It happens in EVERY group, racial, ethnic, socioeconomic, social, political, and religious group. If you are going to make claims about one group having a higehr prevalence of abuse, I request that you provide unbiased evidence.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman