I am in a long distance relationship for almost a year. and i have been with the guy for almost a year and a half. I still really love him and he does as well... and Ii know he’s not cheating on me.
First of all: Distance is only a measurement.
many people say how long distance relationships don't last but that’s not completely true, there are many couples who have ended up together after a long distance relationship. So why don't people think they will work?
usually when someone who is in a serious relationship find out he or she has to move, he or she breaks up with his or her significant other because he or she believes that they won't last long distance. What is apparent is that there must not be that much love between the two people in the relationship. People just need to have faith. So why don't people? We can have faith in God, Jesus, or whatever religious leader someone can believe in, but y can't we have faith in love?
5o years ago, when someone first fell in love with someone, they get married no matter what happens. But it seems today since divorce is more common (55% of marriages end in a divorce) that people can be picky on who they marry. Is that why we lost faith in love? Because we can marry however many and whoever we want?
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So sad yet true. Divorce is the downfall of Love. so Congrats on BEING IN LOVE! I recently fell out of a long-dist relationship (for reasons OTHER than distance or infidelity, trust me, they were GOOD reasons :p). Distance made our love stronger, and I appreciated him more. I cherished my time with him SO much, and there was no possible way I could be with him too much. We were 500 miles apart during the school year, and together 24/6 (the boy is a much more devout presbyterian than I :D) in the summer. We were "together" for almost two years; I know that he was/is my first love, but at the moment the situation IS what it IS. I still do love and miss him very much, and he's still one of my best friends just bc he probably knows me more than anyone else ever could.
I agree that people just need to have faith. Everyone's just so apathetic these days! If you truly love the person, don't be so eager to "let them go" as I've heard SO many people say bc they just might be giving up their soulmate!
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I just ended a long-distance relationship, only partly because of distance. Meaning it was mostly something else, and the distance just kinda aggravated it. It's entirely possible to do a long distance relationship, just it doesn't work out for everyone.
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Technically, I'm not sure if I could call this a long distance relationship, since the whole thing is really new to me still, but I've really fallen hard for a guy several states over who I haven't even met in person. We connected through our fanfiction site, when I found one of his stories, and we've been talking just about everyday since then through email. And because of this, I think I understand why a lot of people don't think long-distance relationships work.
When you feel like I do about this guy, and knowing that you can't hear his voice, or steal a hug from him when you need it, it hurts. It really does, and it won't give you any rest. When I can't talk to him for some reason or other, I get really lonely, even among my friends, and I miss him more than I thought I could miss anyone. And that always leaves me wondering "Is it worth it? Is feeling this way worth all the happiness he gives me?"
I'm sure the people that feel long distance relationships won't work, and feel strongly about it, probably asked themselves those same questions and answered "No," whereas I, and I'm sure many others, answered "Yes."
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
Happiness is always worth it. That's where your best memories are :]
i'm sure you've heard: 'Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
I won't ever regret my good times with said boy :] bc all the longing and sadness and loneliness is ERASED once you finally see them.
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Dream is destiny [Waking Life]
Unless you never get to.
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good point.
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Gah! I hate thinking about the fact that I'm not likely to ever see him...
;'(
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I feel your pain, seriously... one of my best friends and I were both in your situation... her 'boyfriend' ended up making a bunch of excuses to never meet up, and we haven't heard from him in like a year and a half to two years. Basic thing happened to me as well.
I'm bitter right now... don't let me bring you down.
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I'm just in the midst of a lot of confusion over my feelings right now...makes me depressed, lol. I've honestly never felt this strongly toward anyone before, and it's all weird and new and exciting...but very confusing. Sigh...
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I am not sure why so many don't think long distance relationships will last. For me, however, I don't think I would be able to do it . I need the physical aspect of the relationship too much to go without.
I know what you mean. It's hard for me right now, knowing that when I really need a hug, I won't be able to get one, and so on. I'm a huggy person by nature: I thrive on physical displays of affection, between family and friends, and well, everyone I'm close to. I need to have hugs, at the very least, but...I can't get them. Sigh...it really drives me nuts sometimes. But I'm pushing through simply because he makes me happier than I've ever been, and when I'm talking to him, he makes the little degrading voice at the back of my mind that kills my self-esteem go away. And that's enough for me to deal with the lack of the physical aspect of the relationship. For other people, though, they don't have my issues...so...yeah...one of the reasons people can't make long-distance relationships work.
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.